Dont Be A Relationship Doormat

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By , November 28, 2014 7:53 pm

All relationships tend to start off with a lot of love, lust and respect. It’s only after couples have been together for a while that they start to go downhill because the real traits of the partners start to come out. Many of these couples split up and go their own ways to brighten or ruin the lives of new people. Sadly, a high percentage of some people decide to remain in those relationships because of not knowing how to handle abusive partners. Those people become relationship doormats and it’s a hard pattern to break.
You may not even realize that you’ve turned into a doormat even though you’ve got friends and family members that are trying to tell you the truth. Some of the signs that you’ve become a relationship doormat include but aren’t limited to:
You’re constantly being cheated on: This is something that many women continue to tolerate even though it’s one of the most hurtful and disrespectful things that a man can do to them. They choose to turn their backs on the situation or they simply decide to stay in the relationship even though it’s pretty obvious that it’s not a loving and devoted one on both sides.
He always chooses his friends over you: Friends are great for everyone to have and it’s also good to hang out with them periodically. But if your man is constantly blowing off spending time with you in favor of playing with his friends, he has a warped sense of devotion. He’ll probably want your attention when he comes home from that night out with the boys all drunk and horny, though.
He makes fun of you or criticizes you in front of others: If it seems that you never do anything right when it comes to your man and he does nothing but tell you how stupid you are or incompetent you are, he probably does it in front of other people, too. This shows the blatant disrespect he has for you. Also, he can’t love you if he’s constantly finding fault with everything you do.
He rarely has sex with you and when he does, it’s all about him: That’s what you call an inconsiderate and selfish jerk. Why are you with this guy?
He’s hurting you physically: If this is happening to you, it’s time for you to move on. Nothing is worse than this because you can become severely damaged or worse when you’re physically abused. So many women will remain in this type of situation for various reasons, but it’s wrong and dangerous.
These are just some of the signs that you’ve become a doormat in a relationship that’s never going to be a happy one unless you decide to stand up for yourself. Of course, then you’ll probably have to leave this horrible boor that you’ve attached yourself to but it will definitely be worth it in the end. The only way you’re going to be happy is to meet the man that will cherish you and love you the way you’re meant to be. Don’t allow yourself to be a doormat. If you do, you’ll never be as happy as you could be.

Relationship Advice For Men Look At Evolution To Find A Mate

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By , November 26, 2014 2:48 pm

What is the best relationship advice for men? What should men know if they want a relationship to work for the long haul?

Probably the single biggest piece of relationship advice for men is to stop listening to what women say they want and start observing what women actually display that they want.

How do they display what they want? It is as simple as observing what kind of men they choose.

Women say “I want a man who listens to me.” They choose the man who dominates the conversation. Women say, “I want a guy with a good sense of humor.” They date the guy who has money.

Why do women say they want one thing but actually go out with a guy who is just the opposite? The answer to that question lies in the subconscious motivators for getting together. And, therein lies my relationship advice for men.

The historical, biological reason for men and women to get together is to propagate the species. In other words, just because getting pregnant may be the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates a man at the subconscious level, she’s still looking for a good papa for her children.

Is the good dad someone who listens to her? No, it is someone who will provide for her children. And, the person who can provide for her children is someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.

Women need men who can be good providers. While a man can produce thousands of sperm on repeated occasions throughout their adult lives, even into their 90’s, women have about 400 chances of producing a baby. As a result, they are looking for a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies.

A man who tells a women he is a lawyer and not a paralegal will have a better chance of landing her. That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better provider for her future children.

But having a good income is not enough. A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with his resources and will provide for her children. That is why women place such a high value on gifts such as jewelry.

It may also be why the engagement ring must be such a large purchase. When you ask a woman to marry you, you give her a ring, not just because it is traditional and romantic, but because it is a tangible display that you can provide for her and her children.

Further, even though modern humans make money more from their brains than their brawn, women are still programmed to think of strength equaling the ability to provide. That’s why, even when there is evidence to the contrary in the form of a tax return, the woman is hardwired to choose the lineman over the computer geek.

So, the biggest piece of relationship advice for men is to figure out what women need from an evolutionary point of view and give it to her.

Reasons To Keep Your Relationship Off Of Facebook

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By , November 24, 2014 9:41 am

Too many couples seem to need the excitement of drama and/or the support of others when they’re going through happy times or not so happy times. Other people just need the attention that will come their way when everyone else finds out exciting details of their relationship. When you’re tempted to blab all of the details of your relationship all over Facebook, you should keep in mind that you could actually be putting your relationship in jeopardy.
The main reason for that is the more people, strangers or non-strangers that you allow into your relationship, the less chance there is that it will work out the way you were hoping. Couples should figure out their own issues in their relationships. If they can’t do that on their own, they should see someone professional for help, like a counselor. Someone trained to help couples with their problems stand a better chance of getting them resolved and remaining together.
When you draw in your personal friends as well as Facebook friends that you barely know, your relationship stands a chance of being ruined for all time. These friends only know one side of the story: yours. In addition, since they’re on your friends lists, they’re going to take your side in things. Now, while you may not want to admit or accept it, there is a slight chance that you’re the one in the wrong. However, your friends are going to encourage you into believing that everything happened just as you said it did, and there will be no true resolution because you’re going to continue believing that you did nothing wrong.
The problem here is that, rarely, is the wrong doing on the side of just one partner. Typically, in most situations, both partners have contributed to the argument, breakup, or whatever has gone wrong in the relationship. While your Facebook brings are boosting your side of the story, you can bet that your partner’s friends are boosting his. This only stirs things up and makes the situation much worse than it already was.
Do yourself, your partner and your relationship a favor, and keep your details off of your Facebook page. When you need to straighten something out within your relationship, it should stay between the two of you and not a thousand people that are, for the most part, strangers in your lives. They’re not going to really help fix things.
Your Facebook friends are certainly there to share your joys and triumphs as well as your sorrows and heartaches. However, there will always be some things that you just shouldn’t share where it can be sent all through the universe. Some things should be kept only between you and your partner. They may eventually be shared with others, but there will always be things that will and should remain between you and your partner. That’s part of the fun of being a couple. You can have things just for the two of you that will make your relationship even more intimate. Keep this in mind when you are tempted to broadcast your relationship to all of your Facebook friends.

Sweet But Boring

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By , November 22, 2014 4:20 am

Something that happens more than you would think is when you meet the man that you’re positive is Mr. Right only to discover that there’s no way you can stand to be around this man because he’s so incredibly boring. This is another one of those instances where you really cannot judge a book by its cover. You may see this man across the room that’s the most beautiful person you’ve ever seen in your life. His hair is just right, his eyes are gorgeous and penetrating, and his body rivals that of a Greek god. What’s more, he’s staring back at you!
Your dreams come true as he walks across the room towards you and starts a conversation. Before you know it, you’ve agreed to go out with him that weekend. Over dinner, you and this gorgeous man get to know each other better. He’s such a great listener that you don’t realize until much later that you’ve been doing all the talking. Embarrassed, you apologize and start to ask him more about himself. His answers are pretty straight forward and not very colorful, but you decide that he just may be a bit shy when it comes to talking about himself.
The next day, he sends flowers to you along with a note thanking you for the great evening. You find this a rather sweet gesture, so when he calls and asks you out again, you readily agree. This date is a lot like the first one, almost down to the dinner conversation. At the end of the evening, he doesn’t try to kiss you goodnight so you take matters into your own hands and kiss him. This kiss is rather surprising to you simply because he kisses you close lipped. In other words, he doesn’t slip you any tongue at all. It’s almost like kissing your brother, if you were to kiss your brother on the mouth.
That’s all a little puzzling, but he is cute so you agree to another date. Since the third date is, in many cases, that date where things heat up and move to the bedroom, you’re not quite sure what to expect. You don’t really need to worry because he doesn’t show any inclination in moving to the bedroom or anywhere else. Yet, he still seems to want to see you again.
Eventually, you start to realize that this man is either gay or simply boring. Maybe he doesn’t know how to be with someone. It may be that he just doesn’t have anything to say. As you dig deeper, you don’t find any hobbies or true interests. He simply isn’t an entertaining person to be with. Now, you’re starting to see why he’s single.
Unless you can tap into some hidden enthusiasm inside of him, chances are he’s not going to improve when it comes to being a bit more entertaining. If you’re good simply having some eye candy, you’re probably going to be just as happy purchasing a life size poster of your favorite “pretty boy.” Some men just don’t have anything going for them when it comes to enjoying life. The sooner you discover that about a boring date, the faster you can put him behind you.

Planning That First Trip Away Together

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By , November 19, 2014 11:40 pm

There comes a time in most relationships where the couple decides to go away together for the first time. This is a very exciting time in the relationship and will need a bit of careful planning in order to make everything perfect on this first outing. There are some things that need to be taken into consideration before making this inaugural trip together.
The first thing that must be considered is whether or not you’ve taken things to the level of sleeping together. If that’s the case, then you’ll probably want to get a room together somewhere really nice such as a quaint inn or bed and breakfast. These are usually much more romantic than a huge resort where there will most likely be hundreds of people staying. So, for this first trip away, it’s generally better to opt for a quieter environment. It will help you to spend some true quality time together.
On the other hand, if the two of you haven’t begun sleeping together and this trip is to be that special moment when you move things to the next level, you’ll want to plan things a bit differently. First of all, make your reservations at a place that’s a little off of the beaten path. Try out a romantic cabin where it will be just the two of you and you won’t have to worry about Housecleaning knocking on your door very early in the morning. If you can’t find one of those, do some research and see if you can find a small hotel in a romantic setting. You just want to be somewhere that you’re not disturbed by lots of other people being around.
There are some unique bed and breakfasts around that you can find if you just make a few inquiries and perform a bit of research. These are the ones that don’t have all of their rooms under one roof. You can find everything from an actual cave to tree houses and a few other things in between. Any of them will be great for you to enjoy your first sexual encounter with each other. While you may have to cook for yourselves or go out to restaurants, there will at least be fully stocked pantries and refrigerators.
Of course, when you’re planning your first trip away that will also be your first sexual encounter together, there will be different types of clothing other than the type you will take if you’re going to be staying in separate rooms. So pack accordingly. Obviously, you’ll want sexy lingerie and some more seductive outfits if you’re planning for this trip to also contain The Big Night. If you’re not going to be sleeping together, you can pack some attractive outfits that will generate some interest that can just keep building.
Something else you may want to consider is just how much time you’ll be spending outside of the accommodations. If you plan to do some site seeing, it’s good to research the area before making a reservation. On the other hand, if you’re going to be having that “first time” together, you probably don’t care so much about the surroundings.

Planning a Bachelorette Party for the Bride to Be

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By , November 17, 2014 6:55 pm

Are you charged with planning bachelorette party for your friend, the bride? Ask her what kind of event she’s looking forward to because you don’t want to embarrass her. At the same time, you do not want a ‘princess event’ when she’s looking forward to a walk on the wild side. In either case, planning the bachelorette party can be a big affair.

The bachelorette party has become a substitute or an addition to the traditional shower. While the shower might feature older relatives and friends, the bachelorette party is for the ‘girls’ a bride hangs out with.

When planning bachelorette party, you should know that some of these events are of the ‘tea and crumpets’ variety. Decorations will include pastel streamers and hearts. The theme will be romantic and gifts may include household items that the bride will need if she is setting up a home for the first time. In many ways, this kind of party is just a shower for the younger set.

Other times, planning the brides party will involve pampering the bride and her wedding party. Perhaps an in home bridal make up demonstration will do the trick. Other times, a trip to the spa for all of the guests makes for the perfect party. In this case, gifts that reflect the luxurious nature of the day – soaps, perfumes, etc. – are most appropriate.

Some brides, picking up on the more decadent tastes of their male counterparts, will want a sex-themed party. This may involve male strippers either as an at-home event or as a party to Chippendale’s. If it is an at home party, decorations may well be on the risque side. Gifts, as well, can reflect the sexual nature of marriage and exotic lingerie is always welcome.

Other times, the ‘girls’ go out to a bar for a last night out. The bride will be given a checklist of events she must do that evening including kissing a man with the groom’s first name, getting a single guy’s phone number, and more.

Destination bridal showers are becoming popular as well. When planning bachelor party away from home, consider what the bride wants. Is she looking for the ultimate spa experience in Scottsdale, AZ, or is she wanting to party in Vegas?

But, as brides and grooms find that they don’t want ‘one last fling’ as much as they want to celebrate their commitment to each other with both their male and female friends, you may find that planning bachelorette party involves the groom as well.

The so called ‘Stag and Doe’ or ‘Jack and Jill’ parties involve all of the bridal couple’s friends. They are also used as fundraisers for the wedding sometimes.

As far as finances go, you should never expect the bride to foot any of the bill. The guests should chip in for her portion. Considering that the guests must cover their own bill as well as a portion of the brides’ planning bridal party must keep a reasonable budget in mind.

It can be a lot of fun planning a bachelorette party.

To Rekindle An Old Flame Or Not

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By , November 15, 2014 1:18 pm

Some of the hottest and most passionate relationships usually take place between couples of teenage years. Nothing is more lustful than two teenagers in love. It also hurts the most when it ends. Many times, if the ending happens for reasons other than the couple is just tired of each other and ready to move on, the love becomes unrequited. Even though these two individuals may move forward in life and even go on to marry other people, they never forget their first love. This love is something that may never leave them no matter how far they travel.

That’s why it’s very tempting to rekindle an old flame if the opportunity presents itself. You’ve probably heard many tales of how couples that have been separated for years suddenly find themselves back together and realize they still have the same feelings for each other as they did when they were a couple the first time around. Those are very possible and very heartwarming stories. However, it doesn’t always turn out that way. Many times, it’s just the fervent wish to revisit a time in life where the feelings were exciting and the couple was beautiful.

There has to be a better way to tell if you should rekindle an old flame or not, and there IS. First of all, put away your feelings from long ago. Then be very honest about how your NEW feelings are at seeing your old love from so long ago. This step is true whether it’s been 3 years or 30. You can’t allow those past feelings to completely rule decisions you make in the present. So Rule Number One is to deal with your feelings in the present and don’t be overly influenced by the past.

Now that you understand Rule Number One, it’s going to be confusing to learn what Rule Number Two is because that rule tells you to remember the moments of your past relationship with your old flame. Some of those moments can be very important, particularly if these are warnings of why you shouldn’t become involved with him again. Were you mistreated by this old flame in the past? Did he cheat on you? Did he abuse you in some way?

If that’s the case, it’s very important to recall those moments because chances are slim that he’s changed much over the years in that regard.
Once you get past Rule Number One and Rule Number Two satisfactorily, you move into Rule Number Three. That one has you paying close attention to how you feel when you come face to face with your old flame.

Is that spark truly still there for both of you? If so, and the conditions are right, then you should definitely test the waters a bit and see how they feel. That doesn’t mean that you should hop into bed with him immediately. It means that you should be open to exploring whether or not things can actually go somewhere this time around. It may be the best decision you ever made.

Exes That Keep Returning

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By , November 13, 2014 8:15 am

It’s not uncommon for couples to break up and then get back together again. That happens all the time because it’s what both partners want and they’ve worked out their differences. Then there are the exes that leave and come back, leave again and come back again. These are totally different entities and can be some of the most annoying on the planet. The question is why do these guys keep returning, especially if they’re just going to leave again? Well, it turns out that there are some valid reasons they do this.
To begin with, you may have spoiled them by giving them everything they ever wanted. If you treated them better than they’ve ever been treated before, in spite of the fact that they left, they’ll come back when they find out how good they had it with you. They’ll come sneaking back into your life and be comfortably reinstalled in their former position as your partner before you realize what’s happened. Suddenly, you’ll find that things are back the way they used to be and he’s getting everything he wants right before he walks out the door again.
Another reason that exes keep returning is a pretty simple and obvious one. The two of you may not have seen eye to eye on a lot of things but the sex was totally epic. When the sexual connection is that strong, it’s really hard to give it up. So while all of the old problems may still be in existence, the sex will always be amazing between the two of you, so he’ll always be trying to come back to get more of it.
He may just want what’s known as a “do over.” This means that he’s tried some things and figured out what he did wrong, or what he thought he did wrong. It may have taken a few more relationships with other women to show him, but he’s perfected his techniques and wants to try again with you. It’s ok to give it a shot, but typically, relationship dynamics don’t change that much even over time. You can try it if you feel so led, though.
Being single again can cause men to rebound into all sorts of relationships simply because he doesn’t LIKE being single. Since he’ll obviously be more comfortable with someone familiar and that he feels connected to, he may find his way back to you in between relationships. One day you may receive a phone call or a text out of the blue from an ex. That just means he’s testing the waters a bit to see how you’ll react.
Granted, there are some reunions with exes that can work out just fine as long as some changes are made. Unless your ex has fundamentally changed, reconciliation is risky because many of the same issues will crop back up. Before you jump back into things with an ex, keep in mind that your ex is an ex for a reason.

Worst Date Ever

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By , November 11, 2014 3:11 am

Dating can be filled with dangers that you may never have thought existed before. Not everyone is prepared to go out on a date for the first time as they may think. Because of this, embarrassing moments can occur that will either ruin the night entirely or end up giving you something to laugh about during your second date. No matter what kind of night you are having, you should always remember that you are human and bad things are just going to happen from time to time. But there are ways of getting around some of those bad things.
The first thing you are going to need to do is consider the fact that no matter how bad things are going on your date, someone has already been through it and they managed to survive. Even if your date gets up half way through and jumps out the bathroom window of the restaurant, there is no reason to panic. You aren’t the first one this has happened to. Besides, at least you found out right off the bat rather than spending a fortune and two weeks trying to impress them. See how things work out for the better at times?
What do you do if your date is completely boring and somewhat arrogant? Well, that is easy; just stick them with the check. It will probably piss them off a bit, but you get a free meal out of it and you won’t have to worry about them trying to call you again. Sometimes, having a bad first date can save you a lot of grief later on. If they run out on you, then it is probably a sign that it was never meant to be and you could end up a lot happier because of it.
Having a bad date is nothing new. Plenty of people go through them on a regular basis and turn out OK in the end. Just remember that you shouldn’t feel like it was all your fault in case something does happen that turns a great night into a nightmare. You have to give yourself a chance to get out there and find the one person that is going to laugh when things go south. These are the type of people you need to be around anyway since no one out there is perfect all the time.
You are going to say something or do something extremely stupid at some point in the night. That is a given fact and you just have to work around it and make the best out of a bad situation. If the person you are with is able to laugh things off and still have a great time, then maybe you have a chance at true happiness. Besides, just because you are having a bad night doesn’t mean that your date is having one. This could be a blessing in disguise for you and your date if everything works out for the best even after a really bad night.

Dating And The Failing Economy

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By , November 8, 2014 10:26 pm

Dating used to be something that all couples looked forward to years ago. The dating ritual usually consisted of going out to eat and to a movie. In those times, the guy always paid for the date. If you look back far enough, you’ll even learn about drive in movie theaters when admission covered an entire carload of people. So double dating was a big deal. The snack bar served cheap popcorn and other easy food such as hotdogs and French fries. It was easy to have a $10 to $15 date back then.

Now, that the number of drive in movie theaters have diminished greatly throughout the years, it’s not quite as easy to have a decent cheap date. Indoor movie theaters now charge such outrageous prices to get in and even worse prices to get simple snacks and a soda once inside. What used to be a reasonably priced evening out is now easily $50 and up.
It may seem to be an almost impossible task these days for ordinary people to actually go out on a fun day. Wealthy people have no issues but those of the more ordinary working class can find it difficult to afford the typical dating scenario. That’s when creativity and imagination is required.

To begin with, women of today understand all about the economy and usually expect to be footing their half of the bill on a date. So if money is stopping you from asking out that hot woman that you’ve been dreaming of for so long, you might just want to go ahead take the plunge. Granted, the first date should be one that you can afford to pay for completely because it IS a first date. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible, though.

Save up as much money as you can to put aside for this first date. You can also use your imagination and create a different sort of date. Find out what she enjoys and build a date around that. Try doing something different. For example, if she enjoys riding bikes, plan an afternoon of bike riding in a nice location. You can even pack a picnic to enjoy in a special spot. Actually, picnics can be great ideas for many locations. The beach at night with a campfire can be a very romantic setting for a night time picnic. Just put your brain to work and you’ll come up with something.

Once the first date is past, it can become easier to plan more affordable dates because she may feel safer in having you over to her place or in going to yours. Each of you can cook dinner for each other and watch a rented DVD or play games. Basically, there are many things that can be done at home that are fun and affordable.

When you have formed a dating relationship with someone, it will most likely become quite common for her to offer to pay for her half of a date. In fact, SHE may even treat YOU on occasion. This is something that happens frequently when the lady does the asking.

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