How Your Friends Can Help You Through A Breakup

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By , February 5, 2015 6:05 am

Friends can be invaluable when it comes to helping you get through the breakup of a relationship. Of course, you can count on them to listen as you pour out your heart to them about how you feel so empty now and how much pain you’re in because of the end of your relationship. That’s a given. However, there are other ways that your friends can help you move past your heartbreak and start to move ahead. You just have to get a little creative or at least be open minded enough to take them up on any offers they have. Some of these activities include:
Enjoy nature together: Get out with your friends and go biking, rock climbing or hiking. Take in your surroundings and appreciate them. There’s beauty in nature that you’ll never find in a relationship, and you’ll be able to start to feel at peace with yourself and your life. Just stay away from places that were special to you and your ex.
Exercise: Nothing is better for burning off bad energy and taking your mind off sad things like exercise. It’s also much more fun to exercise with a friend than alone. You stay more motivated; plus it gives you something to do to keep you from dwelling on your ex. In addition, you get to tone up your body and help yourself look more enticing to your future partner.
Go out dancing: This can really make you feel better. It falls closely in line with exercising but in many ways it’s a lot more fun. There’s music and people having fun together. Your friends can gather around you and get you dancing to activate those endorphins that will improve your mood. It’s also entirely possible that you’ll meet someone new while you’re out on the dance floor or having a drink afterwards.
Choose just one friend to confide in: Don’t say all of those hateful things about your ex to everyone you see. You really don’t want it all to get back to him because it will just make you sound like you’ve got sour grapes. Also, if you and your ex happen to get back together in the future, all of those people you badmouthed him to will remember what you said, and that could be awkward.
Plan a monthly singles only dinner party: Creating a menu and cooking it will make you feel better. There will be the excitement of cooking those wonderful dishes that you’re so good at. You can try new recipes and this can be even more fun. Nothing is more comforting than hanging out with your friends over a great meal. You can even start this on a rotating basis so that everyone in the group gets a chance to host. Break it up so that the host provides the entrée and others make soup, salad, appetizers or side dishes, and dessert. Make it even more fun and turn it into a formal event.
When you start thinking about it, you’ll probably find other ways that your friends can help you through this very difficult time. Just remember to LET your friends be there for you.

Be The Bigger Person When Handling Conflict With Your Loved One

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By , February 3, 2015 1:05 am

You hear of lovers brawls in the news and you see reality stars fighting for all sorts of reason. Being rude isn’t only allowed, it’s been sensationalized by the media as well. It’s no wonder why so many people think it is okay. Well, it’s time to change things because there’s no excuse for that kind of behavior.

When you go out with your man, treat him with kindness. You need to coexist with everyone in this world. Otherwise, it’s going to be a lonely ride for you. Don’t just rely on technology to communicate with him. Some things are still better said in person. Remember, the way you act is indicative of the kind of person you are. You get respect by being respectful.

It’s Never Okay

Then, there are those that say being rude is okay simply because they feel that that they’re on the right side. Your man has feelings, and who knows, you might actually slip someday and would need his compassion as well. If he remembers that one distasteful encounter, he’s not always going to bend over backwards to do things for you.

As big as the world is, you still run in the same circles, share the same set of friends. So, just tread carefully and make it a point to consistently be nice. If you need to say something that could be unpleasant, be careful with your words. Think about what comes out of your mouth because there’s always a way to be frank yet tactful.

Make It Pleasant

Unpleasant encounters happen to everyone. You open the door for someone, and then you suddenly find yourself steamrolled by a large group of people. So you make the mental note never to be nice time and again. You have to understand that no two people are alike. You’re also surrounded by rudeness. Still, this doesn’t give you the right to sink to their level.
Regardless of the outcome you get, it’s always best to be nice. More importantly, you need to give him the benefit of the doubt. There’s a good explanation as to why he reacted the way he did. Then, check yourself every now and then. You’re more likely to get what you want when you’re vigilant about your attitude.

Some people spend so much time pointing out the mistakes of others that they aren’t aware of their weaknesses. Never be this kind of person. At this point, hone in on your personality, work at becoming better, and know that there’s no excuse for being rude.

So what if not every person is this way? Then let these people deal with the repercussions while you go about your daily life.

Just keep thinking about the long-term effects of having an attitude change. Stop being rude and you’ll slowly start to earn the respect of the people that love you most. Your man will go out of his way for you, and that’s because he genuinely cares for you. If he abuses your kindness, then it may be time to move on and look for someone who does appreciate the change. You’ve earned respect and it’s time to get what you deserve.

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