Dont Wait How To Ger Over Someone Fast

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By , March 30, 2015 6:22 am

When a relationship ends, especially if you’re not the one who ended it, how to get over someone becomes very important. It’s not always easy to get over a person you’ve been with, though. If you’ve been with that person for a very long time it’s even harder. It might be pretty easy to get over a relationship that’s lasted 3 months. But if you’ve been with someone for 3 years, it’s hard to get over that person at all, let alone get over them quickly. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to speed up the process.

When you’re wondering how to get over someone, sit in a chair in your living room or bedroom, wherever there’s a very strong sense of the other person. Remove anything that reminds you of that person a great deal. This isn’t always easy to do, but every little bit helps. If you’ve bought a dog together, for instance, of course you won’t want to get rid of the dog. But anything your ex bought for you that’s on display like a knick-knack or something hanging on the wall would be a good thing to remove for a while.

If you have lots of things that will remind you of your ex, you’re probably wondering how to get over someone without making your rooms completely bare. But even if you picked out practically everything together, you don’t have to remove everything to make this work. Just choose items that have particularly strong memories.

Maybe you picked out the couch together, but it’s one of the throw pillows that you bought or the figurine on the end table he or she gave you as a gift that seems to make you feel sad when you look at it. Remove those items and store them for a while, just to make things easier on you.

If you’re having a really hard time and feel that you can handle it, you can think of all your ex’s bad qualities. Of all the methods of how to get over someone, this is the one where you actually think of your ex the most, so if just the very thought of them brings you to tears you might not be ready for this step. Think of the things you disliked the most about them. If you can’t thing of anything, just move on. But most of us can come up with a long list of things we dislike about someone, especially if they were the ones to end the relationship.

A popular method of how to get over someone is to simply start dating again. Many people balk at this idea-they think they still love the ex and aren’t ready. You can do this even if you’re still in love with your ex. No one says you have to fall in love anytime soon. But dating or even going out with friends isn’t just how to get over someone, it’s how to keep from feeling sorry for yourself while you try.

How To Tell If Youre Ready To Move In Together

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By , March 28, 2015 1:18 am

One of the trickiest things in a relationship is knowing when it’s time to move in together. You may wonder if there’s a cap on how long you should date before approaching this huge step. There are other things involved such as his temperament as well as yours and the question of whether or not they’ll mesh well together under the same roof. Yes, it seems that there are several variables to consider when it comes to making that all important decision of moving in together.
It used to be in many years past that moving in with someone without benefit of marriage was considered to be a mortal sin. With religion less a part of things now and practicality more involved, more and more couples are choosing to live together before deciding to marry. It’s not unusual at all for many couples to cohabitate for a while and then decide they’re not meant to be together. It’s definitely easier to dissolve a live in relationship than it is a legal one.
However, if you’re trying to decide if it’s time to move in with someone that you’re romantically involved with; there are a few ways to tell if the time is right or not. For one thing, you’re rarely apart except for jobs or other necessary events. He’s either at your house or you’re at his. In fact, both of you have started keeping personal items such as tooth brushes, razors and extra clothes at each other’s homes. It’s obvious that a couple like this doesn’t need the extra space of maintaining separate residences.
Another thing that may help you know if you’re ready to live with someone or not is the distance between your two homes. If there’s a decent amount of miles to drive to see each other, you’ll probably find that weekends are spent at one or the other’s residence because it’s too far to drive back and forth in one day. Then, you start to miss each other through the week because you only have phone and/or computer contact until the next weekend arrives.
Of course, there are the feelings that you get when you’re with each other as well as when you’re away from each other. Sometimes you really do just know when something is right to do. This is the one that usually tips the scales in favor of taking up residence together. You both just love the idea of going to sleep curled up together each night and waking up together every morning. There’s something to look forward to at the end of the day when you come home to each other. These are the biggest reasons for taking the relationship to the next level and moving in together.
Whatever reasons you may have for making this huge decision, if it’s the right one, you’ll both feel it from the very first night you spend together as co-renters. Not only that, but it will most likely be the beginning of a lifelong journey together.

Things I Ve Learned From Women Who Ve Dumped Me

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By , March 25, 2015 8:22 pm

Okay, I’ll admit, I’ve been dumped. More than once. More than I’d like to admit, actually. And, while it hurt quite a bit each time, I have to say that I have grown from the experiences. So, here are some things I’ve learned from women who ve dumped me.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who ve Dumped Me #1: It takes two.

Often with the pain and heartbreak of a break up, it is easy to blame the other person for your misery. But the truth is that if the relationship was no longer working, you were part of the problem. Evaluate what went on so that you can apply the lessons to your next relationship.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who ve Dumped Me #2: Give women their personal space.

Women like to cuddle and snuggle. They may seem to always be around. But they need their personal space too. Men have a tendency to be possessive. We want to keep tabs on where they’re going and what they’re doing there. If any woman has ever cheated on you, this instinct becomes stronger. But, trust is a key component in a relationship. When you invade her personal space, you send the message that you don’t trust your girlfriend. This can easily lead to the end of the relationship.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who ve Dumped Me #3: You get stronger over time.

When you wake up in the morning and the hurt’s so real, you may believe that you will never get over the break up. But the truth is that not only does time heal all pain, but you will emerge from the break up a stronger person. As philosopher Frederick Nietzsche said, “that which doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger.”

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who ve Dumped Me #4: It’s okay if it wasn’t meant to be.

Coming to accept that a relationship wasn’t meant to be is a key factor in healing. If you had started projecting your relationship into the future – considering marriage, thinking about children – and then the woman you were with broke everything off, consider it a blessing. It is better to end a relationship that wasn’t meant to be earlier rather than later.

Things I’ve Learned from Women Who ve Dumped Me #5: Good things don’t happen unless you make them happen.

Finally, the last lesson I want to share with you is that you can’t control what happened, but you can control to how you react to what happened. If you want good things to happen in the future, you have to make them happen.

That means getting back on the horse. Go out, meet new women. Have some fun. Eventually, you will find another relationship. And, if you have followed the advice in this article about things I’ve learned from women who ve dumped me, the relationship will be even better and stronger than the last one.

How To Tell If A Friend Is Coming Between You

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By , March 23, 2015 3:43 pm

A good friend is always going to be supportive of your relationship and be there for you when things don’t follow through the way you want them to. On the other hand, sometimes a friend acts a little peculiar, or is there for your partner in times of need more than they are for you. There are a few ways to tell if your friend is trying to steal away your significant other, if you suspect they may be pining for their affection. Better yet, there are always ways to thwart their progress and remind them of who is dating who.
One way to tell what their intentions are is to, first and foremost, listen to your partner. If your partner loves and trusts you, then they will likely report back to you of any questionable things done or said by your friend. Feel free to approach the issue with both parties in a diplomatic and mature manner. It never hurts to try and talk things out before jumping to any wild assumptions or letting things fester quietly.
It may not exactly be flirtations, either, that your friend throws toward your partner. Sometimes, it’s a little more subtle. There are certain things to look for, if you suspect your friend may be interested. For instance, does your friend always want to talk about them? Does your friend give you questionable advice for your relationship that may later backfire? Does your friend seem to side more often than not with your significant other when an argument arises between the two of you? And is your friend there at the weak points of your union to help your partner rather than you? Or perhaps they say they’re helping your partner for you.
Either way, whether subtle or direct, if you sense their motives are to try and injure your relationship for their own personal gain, the best thing you can do is talk to them about it. Depending on the compatibility of personalities and attitudes, you may be able to grab your partner and friend and talk to them together in a three-way conversation. If you talk things out, but the behavior still continues, you may want to consider distancing yourself and your lover from that not-so-great friend. Give things some time to boil over during that period and see how things go on down the line.
If you find that your friend continues to disrespect you, or that their previous behavior has worsened, then it may be time to just ignore that friend permanently. Some people just don’t learn, and sometimes they just never will. No good would come out keeping negative energy around you and your relationship. Be aware that all a friend like that does is wish for you to fail so they can reap the rewards of their long-term discouragement. The bottom line is that regardless of who that friend may have been before, they are no longer a friend to you.

How To Win Love Back With Common Sense

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By , March 21, 2015 10:55 am

How to win love back is a topic that I want to talk about today. Too many people do this all wrong. They think that they must aggressively pursue their ex in order to get him or her back. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. If you want to know how to win love back, follow the advice in this article as closely as possible.

The first thing you need to know in the how to win love back arena is that you do not want to chase your ex.

Too many guys think they must pursue their ex’s. They send hundreds of texts, call at odd hours of the day, and even stalk their ex girlfriend’s home. They send flowers and gifts.

This is wrong, wrong, wrong because it makes you look desperate. Women like Alpha males, not sniveling guys they think are jokes. When you appear desperate, your ex girlfriend will start playing head games with you. She’ll let you come over, and then invite a new guy over too. She’ll pretend she’s interested only to go off in another direction.

And, the more you fall into this trap, the more games she’ll play. This is not the answer to how to win love back.

Instead of chasing her and being desperate, you need to play games with her that make her come crawling to you.

When you are in a group that includes her, flirt with every girl but her. If she has an enemy in the group, pay special attention to that girl. By ignoring your ex, you make her want to come back to you. You are reminding her of all of your charms, but not applying them to her.

It’s a good idea to go out on a date with one of her close friends. Send your ex a text message saying “now that we’re just friends, I wanted your opinion on something. Where should I take Mary to dinner after the big game?” That is sure to make your ex girlfriend jealous and it’s one of the tricks for how to win love back.

Even if you don’t want to play head games with your ex, there is one thing that you can do that may help you in the how to win love back arena. That is, you should be happy.

Girls like to date happy guys. If you work on you rather than focus on her, you have a much better chance getting her back.

Go work out at the gym. Hang with your buddies. Get involved in a hobby you never had time for when you were dating her. Go out on dates. Even if you have to fake being happy initially, you will soon realize that you really are happy.

This way, whether you get the girl back or you move on, you will be a happier person.

And, that is my advice for how to win love back.

Get Your Feelings Out

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By , March 19, 2015 5:43 am

One of the most harmful personality traits in a relationship is that of passive aggressiveness. A person with passive aggressive tendencies hides their feelings rather than discussing the problem and getting it out in the open. Instead of communicating with their partners honestly about what’s bothering them, a passive aggressive person will shut up their feelings, stop talking, glare, sulk, and generally put up a virtual stone wall. They refuse to talk and just let their resentment, hurt or anger dam up. They’re not going to show you just how much something is bothering them. Instead, they’ll pretend to be agreeable and friendly, like nothing is wrong.
Everyone shuts down sometimes. It’s not unusual to do that. However, the person that does this one hundred percent of the time will eventually erupt like a volcano once their emotions have reached the boiling point, or there’s simply no more room behind that dam for one more negative feeling. When this happens, you truly don’t want to be in the way of that outpouring of emotions or you could get hurt in the fallout.
Rather than use this passive aggressive behavior to handle things that you don’t like in your relationship, try opening up a bit more about the way you’re feeling. Communicating your thoughts and feelings in an honest way is the only way to actually resolve any problems that may be present in your relationship. When you hold in how you feel about something, the problem only becomes worse. Unresolved issues in any relationship can be their undoing, and when you go on pretending that everything is fine with you, you’re going to see just how much damage can be done to the relationship.
When your partner says or does something that hurts your feelings or makes you angry, don’t act like it is ok. That’s what a passive aggressive person does and it only makes things worse. All the while you’ve got this friendly smile plastered on your face, your feelings are seething on the inside and your blood is boiling. Holding all of that on the inside is akin to sweeping problems under the rug. There’s only so much room under that rug for problems to accumulate. Think of this when you start holding in your feelings as there also only so much room in there for your feelings. Eventually, that dam will burst and it won’t be pretty.
You may feel it’s better to hide your feelings rather than take a chance on an ugly confrontation or an upsetting scene of some sort. It may seem that you’re not hurting anyone by hiding the way you feel but, in the end, that’s not true. You’re hurting yourself, for one, and you’re also hurting your relationship. Each time that you let something pass that bothers you, it erodes the foundation of your relationship a little bit more.
Don’t let your relationship be ruined in this way. The only way to fix relationship problems is to talk them out. Resist the urge to be passive aggressive and communicate any issues you have with your partner. It is the only way to keep things alive.

Getting Over Break Up Steps Of Recovery

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By , March 17, 2015 12:17 am

Are you getting over break up right now? Do you hurt so bad that you feel like your heart is going to explode? Do you want to see the other person one minute and want to kill them the next? That is all par for the course when you are getting over break up.

Just as there are stages of grief when mourning someone who has diet, there are also steps that must be taken when getting over break up. One woman whose first husband died and second husband divorced her said that it was actually easier getting over the death of a husband than it was recovering from divorce. That is because there’s societal support when someone dies, but you are supposed to go about getting over break up on your own.

The first thing you should do is sit down and write a long letter to your ex. Pour out your heart. Share the experiences you had together. Tell him or her why you loved them. Put on paper how you feel about the break up. Call them names. It’s okay to emote in this letter because no one is ever going to see it. That is because you are going to light a candle and burn the letter over the candle’s flame. There are not many rituals that go along with breaking up, but this one can help you on the road to emotional recovery.

Next, you need to arrange to exchange stuff. If you have been in a relationship of any length, you probably have some stuff of his at your place and he’s got your things at his. You probably want much of this stuff back and he or she is equally eager to get theirs. Work out a time for a mutual exchange.

If there are things of your ex’s that aren’t going to be exchanged, either box them up or throw them away. Don’t leave your ex’s toothbrush lying around the bathroom because it will only remind you of them as you are trying to go about getting over break up.

It is also a good idea to box up any gifts your ex gave you for a time. Wearing a watch that your ex gave you will make you think of them every time you check to see what time it is. That’s just not a good idea when getting over break up.

There are sometimes financial matters that need to be straightened out when getting over a break up. If you owe your ex money, try to either pay it off from your own funds or get another loan to pay it off. If you have a checking account together, work out how you are going to divvy it up and then go to the bank to close it.

What you should be seeing is a pattern of closing out the parts of your lives that you shared. This is essential to getting over break up.

After you have done what is necessary, agree to have no contact for thirty days. This will allow you to start building separate lives. You shouldn’t call, text, email, or meet the other person during this time. You may even want to agree that some places such as a specific bar or even a given church “belong” to one party or the other during this month long period.

After you have had time to begin building a separate life, you will be able to interact more normally once again. This is a difficult time, so give yourself the space you need in order to go about getting over break up.

Living With Your Choices

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By , March 14, 2015 7:42 pm

Relationships are made up of choices even if it’s not evident from the beginning. You need to know what you want in a relationship before you go out trying to find that right man for you. If you don’t do that, you’ll find that you could end up in a relationship that you want no part of and not even realize how you got there. Pay attention to what you’re doing. That’s the only way that you’ll have a chance of being in the type of relationship you were hoping for.
Something that many people forget when they’re on the hunt for a relationship is that they’ve got to live with their choices. Therefore, if you hook up with someone that you’re not so sure about in the beginning, there’s a good chance that you’ll end up in a relationship that you’ll regret. Don’t ever let desperation be your guide when it comes to choosing someone for a potential relationship. That’s one of the biggest reasons that people get involved with someone that turns out to be completely wrong for them.
Think about it for a second. How many times did you take up with someone just because he showed a bit of interest in you and paid attention to you? This is especially true when you’re the only single girl in your group of immediate friends. It gets even worse when your mother, sister or some other relative is constantly hounding you about when you’re going to find a husband. You start to feel the pressure and, suddenly, all men start to look promising to you.
You allow yourself to start daydreaming about what it would be like to walk down the aisle during your beautiful and huge wedding. Everyone will be looking at you and gasping in awe at your beauty. Your family will be standing there teary eyed as they gaze on proudly. Then, there’s the reception and the honeymoon followed by the new house in the suburbs and maybe even a baby or two. When you put on those rose colored glasses, all sorts of men start to look attractive.
Before you give in to that pressure and the feelings those daydreams produce, think about what comes after the fancy wedding, honeymoon and new house. This man will be your husband; the man you’ll be going to bed with every night and waking up with each morning. Marriage is difficult enough even for couples that truly love each other. Imagine just how much harder it will be if you don’t really love this man you’ve married.
Think back on how much pressure you received to get married. Now, imagine just how heavy the disappointment and guilt trips will be once you announce that you’re getting divorced. You simply cannot allow yourself to be talked into or forced into a situation that you know in your heart is wrong for you.
The choices you make in life are ones that you, and only you, will have to live with. So do your best to make the ones best for you.

Be Upfront About The Relationship You Want

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By , March 12, 2015 2:28 pm

Too many people enter the dating game not fully sure of what they actually want to get out of it. Granted, most women are hoping to find Mr. Right so they can get married, settle down and start a family. However, not all women are looking for that type of relationship. Many are simply looking for someone that they can have fun with and relate to on an equal footing. Others only want someone to have a physical relationship with and aren’t actually interested in being involved with anyone.
Nothing is wrong with any of those reasons for dating. In fact, if all people wanted the exact same things in life, this would be a rather boring world to live in. Everyone is different in their own way and that’s what makes things interesting. However, if you’re looking for a particular type of relationship, it’s only fair that you let potential partners know exactly what you’re looking for. In that way, if you’re someone that wants the white picket fence, you won’t waste your time and the time of someone that only wants to date casually. It also keeps you from getting your feelings hurt.
Also, consider the age group that you’ll fall into when looking for a great person to date. Like it or not, there are certain things that each age group is looking for in the majority. For instance, if you’re in your mid -30s, you’re probably going to find that there are a lot of divorced people in this group. They’ve already done the marriage and family thing and will usually come with some “extras,” such as children. So if you want to find Mr. Right and settle down but aren’t necessarily looking for a readymade family, you probably want to get that clear from the outset.
Younger age groups are still in that phase of just having some fun. They want to party, take trips and just have fun in general when they’re not working. The people that fall into this group are typically not looking for anything truly serious, although they’re starting to understand that they’ll need to be a bit more particular in their dating partners. It just depends on which side of 25 they are.
Older groups such as 40, 50 and 60 years old are usually not hoping to start a family, especially women because by the time they hit 50 they’re going to have to adopt if they want children. Some men like the idea of being a father later in life but most are ready to start enjoying the things that having a career for several years has enabled them to do. They want to travel extensively and just enjoy life.
Then there’s the group that contains all ages. These can get a bit dicey because you can have a 45 year old woman dating a 25 year old man and their future plans can be totally different. On the other hand, they can be very similar in the present but change drastically in the future. So you need to be careful with that.
The most important thing is that, no matter what your age, you’re clear about the things you want in a relationship. Then there can be no misunderstandings later.

All About Loving Yourself First To Get Others To Love You Back

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By , March 10, 2015 9:29 am

When it comes to love, you get what you give. Love yourself first before you can expect others to love you back.
Admittedly, your insecurities get in the way at times. You hone in on all your weaknesses instead of taking pride of your strengths. You need to celebrate each day of your life, even if some of the times things get difficult. Life can be trying, but everyone has his or her own burden to carry.

More importantly, know that you’re worth so much more. Take pride in who you are and what you have because you’ve worked hard to achieve so many things in life. You may not succeed in every endeavor, but this doesn’t mean that all hope is lost.

It’s time to take back what’s yours and to look forward to what you can make of your future. You have so much potential in you. As long as you have the strength to get out of bed each day, you can create a future of your dreams.

Getting Out of the Rut

It’s okay to feel depressed every now and then. Yes, you need to sulk some of the times. Cry for all your failures but refuse to let your emotions rule you. Just know that if you had everything handed to you on a silver platter, you’ll never get to really appreciate your blessings.

Feelings of satisfaction come when you’re able to overcome barriers. It’s necessary to know that there are also good times in store and that it’s all up to you to change things for the better. After you’re done with all the whining, make a promise to yourself to do better. Don’t dwell too much on all the pain because you’ve already done that. Instead, summon the strength to push forward.

Go Out with People Who Appreciate You

Admittedly, you do meet toxic people along the way. Don’t let them get to you. They’re also dealing with their own issues.

Then, there are the successful ones. Don’t measure yourself against them. Rather, see them as your inspiration and recognize your own uniqueness. Success can be defined in so many ways. What works for some may not always work for you.

Focus on what you have and stop comparing yourself to those whom you think are better. Set realistic goals instead because you can achieve more when you’re aware of what you’re capable of. Take time to enjoy life. Pretty soon, you’ll attract partners who’ll appreciate you for being you.

The Secret

The ultimate secret to being happy with your relationships is to take time to do the things you love most. Because you’ll be surprised at how this simple decision can give you back the energy that’s been depleted by all that negativity.

Take a look at everything you have. Every single blessing counts. The little things are just as important as the big things. This is when you start rearranging your priorities.

Work hard at improving every single thing a step at a time. If you need to alter some aspects in your life, go ahead and do it. Just make sure you do all these for you, and not for someone else. The change could actually be refreshing.

Then soon enough, you’ll get to see how life starts to unfold. Love is just around the bend, but you will only meet it if you look inside first.

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