Be Upfront About The Relationship You Want

By , March 12, 2015 2:28 pm

Too many people enter the dating game not fully sure of what they actually want to get out of it. Granted, most women are hoping to find Mr. Right so they can get married, settle down and start a family. However, not all women are looking for that type of relationship. Many are simply looking for someone that they can have fun with and relate to on an equal footing. Others only want someone to have a physical relationship with and aren’t actually interested in being involved with anyone.
Nothing is wrong with any of those reasons for dating. In fact, if all people wanted the exact same things in life, this would be a rather boring world to live in. Everyone is different in their own way and that’s what makes things interesting. However, if you’re looking for a particular type of relationship, it’s only fair that you let potential partners know exactly what you’re looking for. In that way, if you’re someone that wants the white picket fence, you won’t waste your time and the time of someone that only wants to date casually. It also keeps you from getting your feelings hurt.
Also, consider the age group that you’ll fall into when looking for a great person to date. Like it or not, there are certain things that each age group is looking for in the majority. For instance, if you’re in your mid -30s, you’re probably going to find that there are a lot of divorced people in this group. They’ve already done the marriage and family thing and will usually come with some “extras,” such as children. So if you want to find Mr. Right and settle down but aren’t necessarily looking for a readymade family, you probably want to get that clear from the outset.
Younger age groups are still in that phase of just having some fun. They want to party, take trips and just have fun in general when they’re not working. The people that fall into this group are typically not looking for anything truly serious, although they’re starting to understand that they’ll need to be a bit more particular in their dating partners. It just depends on which side of 25 they are.
Older groups such as 40, 50 and 60 years old are usually not hoping to start a family, especially women because by the time they hit 50 they’re going to have to adopt if they want children. Some men like the idea of being a father later in life but most are ready to start enjoying the things that having a career for several years has enabled them to do. They want to travel extensively and just enjoy life.
Then there’s the group that contains all ages. These can get a bit dicey because you can have a 45 year old woman dating a 25 year old man and their future plans can be totally different. On the other hand, they can be very similar in the present but change drastically in the future. So you need to be careful with that.
The most important thing is that, no matter what your age, you’re clear about the things you want in a relationship. Then there can be no misunderstandings later.

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