Winter Date Ideas

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By , May 31, 2015 2:14 am

Winter time can sometimes present difficulties in finding dating ideas that don’t repeat themselves over and over again. All it really takes is a bit of imagination and you’ll find various ideas to make your evenings or afternoons exciting, relaxing and romantic. Following are some great ideas for winter dates:
Have coffee at a trendy café: This is a perfect way to while away a few hours on a cold snowy day. Even if you don’t have a local Starbucks, there are always those adorable little cafes that offer coffee and desserts. You get a chance to talk and, if you’re new to each other, get acquainted. It can be a wonderful way to break the ice and work your way into an even longer date.
Ice skating: Even if you don’t know how to ice skate, that shouldn’t stop you from making a date to go ice skating. In fact, if you’re a bit rusty on your skating skills, you’ll need to hold onto his arm and have his arms around you holding you up quite a bit while on the ice. Nothing makes for more togetherness than constant touching and holding.
Cooking dinner together: Things can get quite playful and fun when the two of you are cozied up together in a kitchen. Preparing food can be very sexy when you know what you’re doing.
Book reading event: If you live near a bookstore or know where a nice one is located that you can get to, there are often book signings and readings done by the authors that wrote the books. This can be a rather exciting way to spend a cold evening if you and your guy are both into reading and the same types of books.
Play a board game: Of course, this only works if both of you like playing games, but you can always get into a game if it’s interesting and exciting enough. You may prefer card games or some other type of game.
Attend a sporting event: Indoor sports such as basketball or hockey can be a wonderful date in colder weather. You’re inside during the event and the competition can really warm you up as you cheer for your favorite team.
Build a snow man or snow fort: What can be more fun that playing outside in the snow? Bundle up and head outside to build a snow man together. Make an entire snow family if you want. You can also build a snow fort and have a snowball war. Then you can go back inside later and warm up by the fire while drinking some hot chocolate.
These are just a few of the many things you can do for a winter date. Once you get started, though, you’ll probably come up with something all on your own. Just because it’s cold outside doesn’t mean that you can’t have some exciting and romantic dates. Don’t give up and assume that anything you do has to involve sitting by the fire, although that’s fun, too. Just branch out a bit and you’ll see what other things you can be doing in the winter.

Lying To Each Other

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By , May 28, 2015 10:01 pm

Everyone tells a lie at some point in time during their lives. There’s no getting around it. Most likely, even George Washington and Abraham Lincoln, both known for their extreme honesty, probably lied on occasion. Of course, there’s no way of knowing how many times these men lied to their wives, but you can bet that since they were human, they did lie sometimes. When it comes to lying, it can be the thing that tears your relationship apart or it can be the thing that actually saves your relationship.
That may sound like an odd statement but it’s quite true. Yes, honesty is something that should be a part of all relationships, but that doesn’t mean that it’s ALWAYS the best policy. For instance, when you ask your husband or boyfriend if you look fat in an outfit and he tells you yes, chances are that there will be at the very least some hurt feelings. Depending on your mood, there may be a true blowout. So, you can see that if he had simply told you that you looked great, then both of you could have gone out and had a lovely evening. This is also known as “telling little white lies.” Their purpose is to keep from hurting someone’s feelings over something insignificant.
Many people are proud to be known as someone that will ALWAYS tell the absolute truth. In fact, these people will even WARN you ahead of time that if you don’t want to know the full truth, then you shouldn’t ask them any questions. That’s all well and good but, in the end, how many true friends do they actually have? Whether you like it or not, there are simply certain instances where it’s better to fib a bit than to really hurt someone by telling the brutal truth.
As with most things, though, there’s another side to this coin. Lying just for the sake of lying or keeping yourself out of trouble isn’t the best idea. This is especially true if there’s a very good chance that you’re going to be caught in your lie. Lying creates some of the worst trust issues that you’ll ever encounter in your life. If you’re in a relationship where your partner tends to lie to you, there may be other dishonest things that he does regarding you. Most likely, his lies are told because he’s trying to cover a secret affair. Of course, there are many other reasons that your partner may lie to you, but that’s typically number one on the list.
Many times, it’s difficult to know when a lie is appropriate or when it’s being used to cover up for some bad behavior. Obviously, the “bad” lies aren’t acceptable and should never be used. Instead, you should simply behave yourself or end the relationship. On the other hand, there are “white” lies that can save hurt feelings and the truth isn’t all that important anyway. It’s just up to you to figure out which is which.

Dealing With A Partners Controlling Mother

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By , May 26, 2015 4:43 pm

In a perfect world, everyone would have mothers that knew when to let go of their babies. However, it’s not a perfect world and there are many more of these controlling mothers around than you would have ever thought possible. That’s why the chances are really good that when you hook up with someone romantically, you’re going to also be taking on his very controlling mother.
Now, it’s not all bad. In fact, some mothers aren’t really controlling so much as they really do just want their sons to be happy. With those mothers, you’ve got a chance because, while they might be a bit distant initially, once they see that you adore their “little boy,” they’ll warm right up to you because the two of you have a common goal. All you have to do is show this mother that you do, indeed, love her son and she’ll become your best friend.
Next up are the controlling mothers that feel no woman is good enough for their sons. It wouldn’t matter if you came from royalty and are next in line for the throne. Unless these women have personally handpicked the women for their sons to be with, it’s pretty much a lost cause. Now, if you’re lucky, your guy will understand that his mother is unreasonable and he’ll be the buffer between the two of you. If you’re lucky, he may even agree to move to another state so that you don’t have to be around her and her dislike of you all the time.
The worst of these controlling mothers are something like you probably have never encountered at any point in your life. These women will do anything to keep their sons with them because their belief is that no one on this planet can look after their sons as well as they can. Nothing you do is ever going to be good enough or right, for that matter. Worst of all, she will expect to be included in all parts of your life. If your man can’t say no to her, she’ll be going with you on all trips you take. Every time you and your man have Date Night, she’ll tag along. You’ll probably find her at YOUR house more than at her own. Hopefully, your partner isn’t “mommy whipped” so that he can set boundaries for her and make her keep to them.
The signs are usually there soon enough so that you’re don’t get involved with a guy that’s overly attached to his mother. When you spot them, just cut your losses and run. On the other hand, if you had no warning that you’re inheriting one of these horrible women by getting involved with what you thought was a great guy; you may experience some pain before extricating yourself from the situation. If she’s being unreasonable and trying to act like his wife, attempt to have a talk with him about it. Tell him how that you feel as if you’re married or involved with BOTH of them and that you’re not happy with the arrangement.
She may end up not being an entity you can battle. If that turns out to be true, then the only solution may be to move across the country from her. However, if your man seems unwilling to cut those apron strings, you may just have to walk.

Sometimes A Little White Lie Is Best

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By , May 24, 2015 11:34 am

You know those little moments in time where a guy’s girlfriend or wife is modeling new jeans and she turns to him and says, “Do these make my butt look fat?” Most guys in this situation tend to look very similar to a deer caught in the headlights when you see the expression on their faces. They know that no matter what they say it’s not going to be the right answer unless they can answer in the negative with a convincing tone. These are times when you really need to think quickly and seriously before delivering your answer. This can be true of women with sensitive male partners as well.
Now, before you answer questions such as these, you need to evaluate your situation well ahead of time in anticipation of these questions that are potential land mines for your relationship. Decide just how much honesty your partner can handle. This is the first question that you must answer especially when it becomes clear that you’ll have to face those questions in the future.
Something to remember is that in many situations, telling a little white lie is the best and safest policy. However, you must assess each situation individually before delivering your answer. Sometimes you simply must tell a version of the truth. For instance, if your lady is trying to go out of the house in an outfit that would do justice to the hooker downtown on the street corner, you simply can’t let her go out and embarrass herself that way. Be kind when you present other clothing choices to her and tell her something along the lines of how much you adore seeing her in the outfit that YOU picked out. Nothing should get you further than flattery.
At other times, you may just be forced to tell something that’s not quite true in order to avoid hurting your beloved’s feelings, or putting yourself in the doghouse. Under the circumstances, it’s better to tell her that no, those jeans don’t make her butt look big, or tell him that his hair doesn’t look silly all spiked up and gelled like that. Now, when you go out, if there are some side glances or not so discreet giggles, simply say that you have no idea what they could be staring at because you find your partner absolutely adorable. THERE’S your little white lie.
Simply put, the basic rule about telling little white lies is this: As long as your partner isn’t going to be seen in public in a way that will get them ridiculed and made fun of to a huge degree, let it go. If your partner is happy about something regarding their looks, as long as it won’t be permanent and won’t be TOTALLY ridiculous, agree that it looks nice. These are the types of little white lies that don’t hurt anyone and usually won’t get you busted. Simply agree with your partner and hope that the phase passes.

How To Get Over A Broken Heart

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By , May 22, 2015 6:10 am

Has your boyfriend dumped you? It hurts, doesn’t it? It is no fun to be on the losing end of a relationship. Here’s some tips for how to get over a broken heart.

First of all, pour out your heart. Some of the best poetry and music have been about how to get over a broken heart. If you are not a poet or a musician, consider writing a long letter to your ex. Let him know how you felt about him and how he hurt you. But, don’t mail the letter. Instead, have a ceremony where you burn the letter over a candle. This will provide you with a ceremonial end to the relationship.

Second, decide that the relationship is really over. Nothing will keep your broken heart bleeding more than trying to win an ex back when the relationship has died. Don’t call, text, and email him constantly. In fact, it may be best to have a month where you don’t talk at all.

Next, go out and spend time with your friends. Friends can really help you survive a break up. They may be able to help you talk through some of the issues that went wrong.

But, don’t take advantage of your friend’s time. Remember that the relationship was far more interesting to you than it was to them. Also, know that they may have their own agendas in tearing down your ex rather than building you up.

So, while you can certainly talk about your broken heart, also spend time talking about things your friends care about. Otherwise, they may think you have become a “downer” and not want to spend time with you anymore.

Also, when you spend time with your friends, try to do fun things. Suggest going to an amusement park or a spa. You may even suggest a road trip or weekend getaway.

Get back into the swing of life as well. There is nothing like going to the gym to get the endorphins working. It will make you look and feel better.

If you have interests that have lain dormant for a period of time, reactivate them. Take a cooking class or join a hiking group.

It may also be a good idea to get involved in something larger than yourself. When you volunteer, you reach out and make a real contribution in your community. It will put your current pain in perspective for you.

Start to accept dates from guys even if you don’t really feel like going out. Remember, dinner is not a commitment, it’s just a meal. As you get back into the swing of things, you will start to feel better about yourself.

If you still are in the blues, seek out professional help. A neutral therapist can help you get your equilibrium back and a psychiatrist may be able to prescribe short term medication such as Prosac that can help you bet back on track.

I hope these tips were helpful in how to get over a broken heart. Believe me, this too shall pass. You will find a new boyfriend and life will be better again.

Staying Married For The Kids

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By , May 20, 2015 1:04 am

Marriages are very difficult to make work these days. There’s no doubt about that. Couples that can make their marriages work are to be admired because they’ve found the secret to staying happily married. They don’t give in when it seems that everything is falling apart. Instead, they dig in their heels and start to attack the problem or problems in their marriage with a determination that shows how serious they are about keeping their marriage together.
Then, there are the couples that decide they want to stay married just for the sake of any young children that they may have together. While on the surface, this may seem like a caring action, it may not be that at all. Instead, it may be something that’s rather damaging to the children involved.
Consider that your kids aren’t idiots. It doesn’t matter how hard you try to fool them, most children will pick up on the undercurrents of the problems that the two of you are facing. There’s tension that cannot be hidden, no matter how much you attempt to sweep it under the rug. They understand that something’s not right. This gets even worse when the two of you are sleeping in different rooms when that was something you never did in the past.
If you’re going to attempt to continue a dead marriage for the sake of your children, there are certain things that you’ll need to do if you really want it to work out for them. For one thing, you must treat each other with respect and civility, at least when the kids are around and they can hear you. Save your knock down drag out fights for when they’re out of the house and have no danger of walking in on the two of you. They’re not going to believe you if they hear you screaming and fighting with each other.
Something else to consider is how far you want to perpetuate the lie. If the kids are really young, it’s possible that they won’t notice a lot of things that older kids will. However, young children do grow up and become more cognizant of what’s going on around them. As they do get older, they may start to ask questions. This may be the time to sit down with them and explain some things. You may try telling them that even though Mommy and Daddy aren’t in love like married people anymore that you still care about and respect each other and you want to provide a nice home for them. This one works out well if you and your husband really do still like each other.
You do need to consider that if you and your husband really can’t stand to live under the same roof any longer, it’s not a great environment for your children. Under these conditions, staying together for the kids isn’t a very good idea. They’ll suffer much more if they live in a stressful home than if they travel between two happy ones. Children survive divorce every day and as long as you and your husband have their best interests at heart, yours can, too.

What Are You Looking For In A Relationship

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By , May 17, 2015 8:21 pm

For most people, it’s important to have a really great relationship in their lives. This relationship needs to be solid as well as meaningful if it’s going to help you stay happy and successful. It’s this connection with that special someone that gives you comfort when you need it, intellectual and mental stimulation when you want it, and the return of the love that you offer. A good relationship lets you have your needs met and lets you meet the needs of your partner.

That’s why it’s so important that you have a nurturing relationship in your life. It goes a long way to keeping you psychologically well. The way you interact with your significant other can affect the amount of stress and anger you carry around with you. It can also affect how happy you are. It’s been proven that when you have a great relationship, the less likely you’ll be to develop depression.

Everyone needs someone special in their lives. When you develop a quality relationship, you feel prosperous. The more you branch out to connect with someone in a meaningful way, the happier you’ll be. However, it must be the type of relationship that’s right for you. It’s important to know what you’re looking for in a relationship. Therefore, you need to examine what you want from your relationship.

Ask yourself some questions like:

What are your relationship goals?

Do you want and need for the connection between you and your partner to become stronger in all areas?

Are you interested in being part of a couple that gets along well with others or do you feel that your time is better spent with quality people?
Do you want to be with someone that likes to expand your circle of friends for both business and personal reasons, and do you need help moving past your shyness?

If any of those are true, next you need to figure out why you want those things in your relationship. Do you just want to get more fun out of life? Are you trying to protect yourself from feeling lonely? Is it possible that you just want to build your personal confidence levels higher?

You can add your own questions to this list, but before you start adding to it, you should probably try figuring out the answers to these first. The more clear you are about what you expect from your relationship, the stronger your intentions will be to make these things happen for you. When all of these things flow together, you’ll know that you’ve got the best relationship for you.

Now it’s time to sit back and make the decision of what you want to accomplish in your relationship and the reasons for that. All it takes is to choose a particular target to begin with. Then, decide how that will help you in strengthening the relationship that you need in your life. When you focus on a positive outcome, that’s what you’ll get in your relationship.

Handling Holiday Breakups

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By , May 15, 2015 3:30 pm

While the majority of relationship endings are pretty miserable, those that happen during the holidays can be some of the worst imaginable. This is especially true for the partners that didn’t want the breakup. In fact, they usually never see it coming so it hits them like a wall when it happens. The timing on these breakups can also seem vindictive because you would think that waiting a few days isn’t that big of a deal.

When a holiday breakup happens, you may feel that there’s no way you can have a “normal” holiday. Obviously, you’re going to be unhappy and hurt. Everywhere you look may remind you of something to do with your ex and how happy you used to be. Yes, it can be very hard to enjoy the holidays when you’ve been dumped by someone with the worst timing in the world. However, there ARE ways to make it through the holiday season and come out on the other side somewhat unscathed.

First of all, consider the reason for the breakup. If it was just one of those silly fights that couples have caused by the stress that comes with the happy season, things will most likely be all patched up and fine by Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. Yes, you’ll have a few moments in there where you’ll be unhappy and feel like you want to just die, or you want HIM to die, but once both of you realize what was really going on, things will work themselves out. On top of that, you’ll get to have some very amazing make up sex, which can only make the holidays even better.

Now, on the other hand, if he cheated on you or has met someone else he’s serious about, or for whatever reason, he’s just not in love with you anymore, those are going to be difficult situations to deal with ANY time of the year, let alone holidays. This is when you need a great support system around you. These can be your closest friends as well as family members that really care about you. Lean on them and accept whatever comfort they’re offering. Just remember that it’s the holiday season for them, too, and they probably kind of wanted to enjoy this time.

Don’t hide up in your room or your home and refuse human contact. This is when you need it the most. It’s perfectly fine to grieve, but your goal is going to be getting through a few days before completely breaking down. There will be eleven months and three weeks to do that the rest of the year, if you really want to spend that much time mourning someone that apparently didn’t care all that much anyway. Do what you need to do to crawl through those holidays. Keep in mind not to do something totally stupid, though, like indulging in a series of ill-advised one night stands. Stranger sex isn’t going to heal you or even put a bandaid on your pain.

One more thing to consider is that you may have hooked up with one of those guys that simply breaks up around holidays, or special days, so that he doesn’t have to buy gifts. If that’s your ex, he’ll be back right after New Year’s. Just expect him to pick a fight again right before Valentine’s Day.

Sometimes You Just Have To Move On

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By , May 13, 2015 10:38 am

When the breakup of a relationship happens and you not only didn’t want it to happen, but you never saw it coming, you may spend a lot of time trying to figure out what went wrong. A huge part of this thinking is done because you want so much to have your ex back in your life. You want to fix things so that your relationship will be back on track and thriving again.
To begin with, trying to figure out what happened if you truly don’t know is a great way to start the healing process. It’s certainly an important one because you may absolutely have no idea what ended your relationship. You may have thought that everything was going along swimmingly and had no clue that there was anything out of whack. At least, you didn’t know until the day that your ex came to you and said he was leaving. Could you have really been so oblivious to any problems in the relationship that it was like being hit with a baseball bat that you never saw coming? It’s very possible for that to happen. In fact, it happens a lot and you shouldn’t feel badly if you fall into this category.
It’s important, though, that you learn to become more cognizant so that your next relationship doesn’t suffer the same consequences. If you were so caught up in such things as work or hobbies, you probably didn’t know that your partner was unhappy and feeling neglected. Of course, the smart thing would have been for him to approach you about this to see if it could be worked out. However, what probably happened is that he went searching for someone that was more willing to pay more attention to him than you were.
The next thing you may want to focus on is how to get him back. While it’s true that, in many instances, a relationship can be resurrected, it’s also true that many of them stay broken. If you’re positive that you want your ex back, there are things you can do to see if he will come back to you. On the other hand, if he’s already dating someone else, chances are slim that he’s going to return. In this case, the best thing you can do for yourself is to learn from your mistakes and don’t repeat them in the future.
Sometimes, it’s just better to move on with your life and not look back wishing and wondering what could have been. Once something has passed through your life and exited on the other side, it’s usually smart to simply take the knowledge the experience imparted to you and file it away so that you don’t make those same errors in the future. You’ll have time to figure out what’s really important to you and that’s going to help keep your next relationship intact. Deal with your pain, heal, and move forward. That’s the way to build a positive future relationship.

Romantic Evenings At Home

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By , May 11, 2015 5:54 am

In most parts of the world, the cold weather has settled in. Other areas are experiencing what can only be described as a near depression in the economy. These two things, when combined, make romantic evenings at home a magnificent idea. Not only do you not have to go out in freezing temperatures but you also don’t have to spend a lot of money when you and your partner want to enjoy a romantic evening together. Following are some great ways to have a fun and romantic evening without having to leave the warmth of your home or spend a small fortune:
Movie Night: This is a pretty typical as well as popular way for couples to enjoy a romantic evening by a cozy fire. Rent or haul out an owned DVD that both of you like. It can be a romantic movie or a nerve jangler that will give you a reason to stay wrapped up together on the couch. You can even make it more fun by adding hotdogs that you roast on your own in the fire along with some chips. Popcorn works as a filling snack, too.
Romantic Dinner: Bring out the candles for the table. Broil some steaks to serve with a salad and baked potato. Wine also helps to round out the meal. Put on some sexy music to play low in the background and you’re all set. Dessert can be a really sexy event with a chocolate fondue and some strawberries for dipping. Dip the strawberries and feed them to each other as you top off the night with some truly hot lovemaking either in the bedroom or on the floor in front of the fireplace.
Reading in Bed: This is sexier than it sounds. Both of you choose a really hot book that has been a turn on in the past for you. Prepare for it with something like a bubble bath or shower together beforehand. Don’t cheat, though. Just use it as really intense foreplay. You can light some candles around the bedroom and then cuddle up in bed together with the chosen sexy book. Take turns reading it to each other, possibly starting to mimic some of the things you’re reading in the book. This can turn into a REALLY hot night.
Roleplaying: If you and your partner are rather adventurous sexually, you may enjoy indulging in some roleplaying to heat up a really cold night. It will take a bit of preparation because you’ll want all of the necessary supplies at hand. Then turn off all the phones and hide your vehicles. Pretend you’re not at home. Of course, if it’s really THAT cold outside, you probably won’t have to worry about anyone just showing up to disturb you. The point is to have the time of your lives together in a warm home.
Those are some simple and creative ideas to get you going. You’ll most likely come up with some pretty hot ones of your own. Don’t hesitate to indulge in some of your favorite fantasies as you go along.

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