How To Get Over A Broken Heart

By , May 22, 2015 6:10 am

Has your boyfriend dumped you? It hurts, doesn’t it? It is no fun to be on the losing end of a relationship. Here’s some tips for how to get over a broken heart.

First of all, pour out your heart. Some of the best poetry and music have been about how to get over a broken heart. If you are not a poet or a musician, consider writing a long letter to your ex. Let him know how you felt about him and how he hurt you. But, don’t mail the letter. Instead, have a ceremony where you burn the letter over a candle. This will provide you with a ceremonial end to the relationship.

Second, decide that the relationship is really over. Nothing will keep your broken heart bleeding more than trying to win an ex back when the relationship has died. Don’t call, text, and email him constantly. In fact, it may be best to have a month where you don’t talk at all.

Next, go out and spend time with your friends. Friends can really help you survive a break up. They may be able to help you talk through some of the issues that went wrong.

But, don’t take advantage of your friend’s time. Remember that the relationship was far more interesting to you than it was to them. Also, know that they may have their own agendas in tearing down your ex rather than building you up.

So, while you can certainly talk about your broken heart, also spend time talking about things your friends care about. Otherwise, they may think you have become a “downer” and not want to spend time with you anymore.

Also, when you spend time with your friends, try to do fun things. Suggest going to an amusement park or a spa. You may even suggest a road trip or weekend getaway.

Get back into the swing of life as well. There is nothing like going to the gym to get the endorphins working. It will make you look and feel better.

If you have interests that have lain dormant for a period of time, reactivate them. Take a cooking class or join a hiking group.

It may also be a good idea to get involved in something larger than yourself. When you volunteer, you reach out and make a real contribution in your community. It will put your current pain in perspective for you.

Start to accept dates from guys even if you don’t really feel like going out. Remember, dinner is not a commitment, it’s just a meal. As you get back into the swing of things, you will start to feel better about yourself.

If you still are in the blues, seek out professional help. A neutral therapist can help you get your equilibrium back and a psychiatrist may be able to prescribe short term medication such as Prosac that can help you bet back on track.

I hope these tips were helpful in how to get over a broken heart. Believe me, this too shall pass. You will find a new boyfriend and life will be better again.

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