Lying To Each Other

By , May 28, 2015 10:01 pm

Everyone tells a lie at some point in time during their lives. There’s no getting around it. Most likely, even George Washington and Abraham Lincoln, both known for their extreme honesty, probably lied on occasion. Of course, there’s no way of knowing how many times these men lied to their wives, but you can bet that since they were human, they did lie sometimes. When it comes to lying, it can be the thing that tears your relationship apart or it can be the thing that actually saves your relationship.
That may sound like an odd statement but it’s quite true. Yes, honesty is something that should be a part of all relationships, but that doesn’t mean that it’s ALWAYS the best policy. For instance, when you ask your husband or boyfriend if you look fat in an outfit and he tells you yes, chances are that there will be at the very least some hurt feelings. Depending on your mood, there may be a true blowout. So, you can see that if he had simply told you that you looked great, then both of you could have gone out and had a lovely evening. This is also known as “telling little white lies.” Their purpose is to keep from hurting someone’s feelings over something insignificant.
Many people are proud to be known as someone that will ALWAYS tell the absolute truth. In fact, these people will even WARN you ahead of time that if you don’t want to know the full truth, then you shouldn’t ask them any questions. That’s all well and good but, in the end, how many true friends do they actually have? Whether you like it or not, there are simply certain instances where it’s better to fib a bit than to really hurt someone by telling the brutal truth.
As with most things, though, there’s another side to this coin. Lying just for the sake of lying or keeping yourself out of trouble isn’t the best idea. This is especially true if there’s a very good chance that you’re going to be caught in your lie. Lying creates some of the worst trust issues that you’ll ever encounter in your life. If you’re in a relationship where your partner tends to lie to you, there may be other dishonest things that he does regarding you. Most likely, his lies are told because he’s trying to cover a secret affair. Of course, there are many other reasons that your partner may lie to you, but that’s typically number one on the list.
Many times, it’s difficult to know when a lie is appropriate or when it’s being used to cover up for some bad behavior. Obviously, the “bad” lies aren’t acceptable and should never be used. Instead, you should simply behave yourself or end the relationship. On the other hand, there are “white” lies that can save hurt feelings and the truth isn’t all that important anyway. It’s just up to you to figure out which is which.

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