Nice Guy Versus The Pick Up Artist

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By , May 9, 2015 12:04 am

There are a lot of guys out there that are looking for nothing but a one night stand. These are the guys that pick up those mentally deficient eBooks about being a pick-up artist and think they can get any woman they want. The sad thing is that there are so many of these guys in the world that it basically ruins the chances for an actual nice guy to go out and find a woman that he intends to spend the rest of his life with. These guys basically have no chance because the self-proclaimed pick-up kings have already ruined it for the nice guy.
The difference between a pick-up artist and a nice guy are the same as night and day. The artist will try corny lines and then ignore the woman they are interested in while the nice guy will attempt to buy her a drink. The artist will sit there and talk about all of his accomplishments, most of which are completely made up, while the nice guy is going to be willing to sit and listen to the woman talk about her likes and dislikes. Of course, the nice guy hardly ever gets his chance to do any of this.
Pick-up artists will attempt to get as many women as they possibly can in one night. It’s a lot easier to hit on hundreds of women and get one to go home with you rather than trying to focus on one woman all night long. This means that by the time the nice guy shows up at the bar or club, the women there have already been hit on by every artist in town. After a while, they will get tired of it and shoot down the nice guy before he even attempts to get to know them.
Being a pick-up artist may seem like a great thing for some guys, but the reality is far different from what you might think. Sure, you can have some one night stands here and there, but you are never going to be happy with that in the end. There comes a time when all you really want is someone to talk to and to be with, and when that time comes you aren’t going to be able to find that special woman to share those moments with. That’s mainly because other artists have already helped build the wall around that woman.
So remember this; when it comes time for you to want a relationship, you need to think back to all the weird and annoying things you used to do as a pick-up artist so that you can understand why women want nothing to do with you anymore. It might have been fun while you were younger, but eventually you are going to grow up and realize that you are completely alone and that is never going to change for you. Women want the nice guy and they want the pick-up artist to go away and let the nice guy have a chance one in a while.

How To Know If Youre Ready To Get Married

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By , May 6, 2015 7:51 pm

With the approach of that all-important wedding month of June, more and more couples start to contemplate the thought of marriage. This is something that seems to affect more women than men because weddings are events that they love preparing for as well as having all of the attention turned onto them for just that one day. The problem is that too many couples spend so much time planning the wedding that they kind of miss the fact that there’s a marriage to follow.
Other couples may not be sure whether or not that they’re ready to make that trip down the aisle. If you fall into that group, whatever else you may do, you should not get married! While there may be a certain amount of nervousness surrounding a wedding, there should never be abject terror at the thought of becoming legally bound to another person. If you’re straddling that fence, though, and just aren’t sure whether or not you’re ready to get married, there are some questions you can ask yourself that will help you decide if should start making wedding plans or take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship.
First of all, you need to figure out how you feel about living with someone else day in and day out, having to answer to someone else and running things by them before making any decisions. If you’re already living with your intended and it doesn’t bother you, then this is probably not an issue. On the other hand, if you are still maintaining separate residences because you’ve been hesitant to give up all of your freedom and tend to be attached to “your space,” you probably don’t want to commit to living with someone all the time.
Making your own decisions without consulting someone else may be something that you’ve always done. When you get married, you must consider that any decision you may make will affect one other person besides yourself. That just might not be something you’re up for giving in to.
Now, on the other hand, if you adore living with your significant other and love coming home to him every day, chances are good that you’re ready to make that commitment. This is also true of including someone else in your decision making. If you’re already living together and talking over things before decisions are made, you’re probably more than ready to walk down the aisle and make some serious vows to each other.
Simply put, if you love being together to the point that you cannot imagine going through an entire day without seeing each other, then you’re certainly ready for something quite serious. In addition, if the two of you are already making plans together, that’s also a great sign. When you both get excited when talking about a future together while being equally involved in wedding plans, it’s time to turn those plans into something much more permanent.
The Big Day will dawn bright and beautiful when you’re both ready to say “I do,” whether it’s cloudy, raining, snowing, or sunny.

Best Seller Books On Relationships May Make A Fool Of You

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By , May 4, 2015 2:51 pm

If your ex has just broken up with you, you may be in the marketplace for books on relationships. But how do you choose the best books on relationships among the many offerings out there?

In this article, I will show you how to choose the best books on relationships. And the answer will surprise you. Read on…

First, don’t be fooled by fancy letters after a author’s name. There are many people who find school to be a convenient escape from real life. Instead of engaging with people, they spend their time in the classroom and library. As a result, they end up with a lot of letters after their names when they hit age 35. They use their degrees to indicate that they have “expert knowledge” of a situation. But does their expertise work in the real world?

Instead, you should look for books on relationships by authors who have been in the trenches. They’ve either put a bad relationship back together themselves or they have helped countless buddies do the same. These aren’t therapy patients that come in for the “fifty minute hour” either. These relationships are those of people the author cares deeply about.

Next, you want to find books that don’t boil down to “put the relationship aside for 30 days and work on yourself during that period.” This is all most “save your relationship” or “get your ex back” reports say. Many of the ebooks on the market turn that concept into 50 page documents. These are just pieces of fluff and don’t deserve your attention – or your money.

Instead, you should look for a book that will give you new information; information that you’re friends can’t give you.

For instance, will the book tell you what women crave the most? Will it give you a step by step guide for how to give it to her? Will the book show you how to recover from an affair? Will it give you specific techniques to get relief from your pain?

Finally, look at who is recommending the book. Do the testimonials seem a little generic? Were they written by the author’s brother and second cousin?

You want to find books on relationships that come recommended by a wide variety of people, in various situations, from all walks of life. If it looks like both a guy from England and a newly engaged woman from Kansas have used the book, chances are it will work for you.

There are many books on relationships on the market. Unfortunately, most of them are drivel because they weren’t written by someone in the trenches. As a result, they have generic advice that could be best summed up in a paragraph or two. Then, what recommendations the book can get are generic in nature, because the book really has nothing going for it.

Finding the best books on relationships can take a little work. But, everything about relationships are work. Shouldn’t you invest the time and money in the very best book out them?

Signs Youre Not Ready For A Relationship

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By , May 2, 2015 9:16 am

Many people are so busy focusing on finding someone to be in a relationship with that they miss the fact that they’re not actually ready to be involved with anyone right then. It may seem that anyone would realize that they don’t really want to be involved with someone, but that’s not always true. There may, instead, be a craving of sorts to have someone in your life and someone that you can share things with. That’s not, however, the same thing as being ready to be in a relationship.
One sign that you’re not ready for a relationship is in the guys that you keep being drawn to. Time after time, the guy you’re attracted to is in no way the one that you need to be with. Even though you’re warned that he’s a huge player or a loser, it doesn’t stop you from latching onto him. It also doesn’t take very long to realize that you’ve made a big mistake.
If you must have a man in your life in order to feel happy, that’s another sign that you’re not ready to be involved in a relationship. When you’re invited to a social event, unless you have a date to escort you, it’s likely that you’ll make up an excuse to not attend. This is never a good reason to jump into a relationship. You need to learn how to be happy with yourself first.
Some women feel they’re saviors and will look for a guy that can be their project. What this translates to is that they need drama in their lives so they find someone that’s so dysfunctional that it will keep them quite occupied in saving him. Being a therapist isn’t the same thing as being a girlfriend.
On the flip side of that, you want someone to save you. If you’re constantly talking about what a mess your life is in, you need to fix all of that before you’re ready for a real relationship. What you’ll most likely do is attract a man with all of your same issues so that neither of you can get better.
You feel you need a man to “complete” you. While this sounds great in a movie or in a book, reality is a bit different. There should be no completing. In fact, you might consider looking for a guy that will complement you. That makes you look a lot less needy.
If you’re spending more time looking for love than enjoying the interests you have, you’re not ready to be in a relationship. Granted, you do need to be out there in social situations if you ever plan to meet the right guy, but don’t plan all of your outings around The Hunt. It’s not normal.
Deal with any leftover emotional baggage that you may have before jumping into a new relationship. That’s also known as the rebound effect and is rarely successful. Another man isn’t necessarily going to take your mind off of your ex.
Last, but not least, if you feel you can’t be yourself around a new man, then keep looking. There’s no need to turn yourself inside out to make sure you’re exactly what he wants. Be more concerned about whether or not he’s what you want, instead.

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