Beautiful And Alone

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By , June 28, 2015 7:06 pm

Many times you may remember seeing absolutely gorgeous women sitting alone in a bar. You may have known physically flawless women that rarely had a date on the weekends. While it may not make sense, it’s definitely true that many beautiful women spend a large portion of their lives alone. Once you dig into this phenomena a bit, though, you’ll start to see why it happens more than people think.
For one thing, and this is very common, lots of men are intimidated by women that are just incredibly stunning. This intimidation leads them to believe that these women would never give them a second glance. They don’t want to be shot down so they end up not ever approaching the women of their dreams. Instead, they just keep watching from afar and fantasizing about what it would be like to date them.
Something else about beautiful women is that some of them are assumed to be very self-centered and, therefore, will only date certain types of men. They don’t want to be seen with the ordinary guys. In other words, if a man doesn’t have lots of money and a hot car, they shouldn’t even approach women like this. They will definitely be shot down. Now, this isn’t to say that ALL beautiful women are self-centered. There are ordinary looking women that can be just as self-centered, although one might wonder why they feel they deserve to be.
The point is, even if you feel that you’re a less than ordinary man, you should always give the beautiful women a chance. Very often, a gorgeous woman would love to be approached by an intelligent man with a great sense of humor even if he doesn’t look like the stereotypical movie star. Many times, as long as that man is clean, neat and smells nice, a beautiful woman would be more than pleased to spend time with him.
So, if that man sounds a bit like you, why are you not approaching that beautiful woman sitting all alone at the bar nursing a drink and looking ever so lonely? Unless you look like the Elephant Man and have the personality of a cave man, she just may welcome your company. But that’s not something you’ll ever know unless you try it. Sure, there’s a chance that she may not be interested and blow you off, but there’s at least a fifty percent chance that she’ll smile at you and accept a drink from you.
Now, if she does turn out to be one of those women that has ice water pumping through her veins and isn’t interested unless you’re a millionaire driving a Maserati, at least you’ll understand why she’s sitting in a bar drinking alone. However, if you get your feet wet, so to speak, the next time you might not be so nervous about approaching a great looking woman. After all, once you’ve been shot down, you’ll know how it feels and will know that it can’t kill you.
Besides, if nothing else, you may be starting the relationship of your dreams. If not, you might at least make a really wonderful friend.

Is There Really Someone For Everyone

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By , June 26, 2015 2:59 pm

Something that keeps many single people hopeful is the belief that there’s someone in the world for everyone. This may or may not be true depending on the type of person you’re looking for and what you want to have with this person. So, in actuality, it’s this part that decides if there’s a match for everyone in the world that wants one. It all comes down to what you want to have with another person.

The easiest of all connections is the one night stand. Just about any decent looking person can score one of these. Usually, these happen just because a person has an itch that needs to be scratched. You get all dressed up and hit some of the more crowded and popular “meet markets.” That’s where you’ll find other people just like you that are looking for those few minutes or few hours of physical intimacy with someone else. This is pretty simple to make happen. The downside of it is that for many people it turns out to be less than fulfilling. In fact, it can actually only make that emptiness inside of you that much more lonely. For others, though, it does the trick until the next time the itch starts.

The next type of connection that may be the simplest to achieve is the person for dating and casual sex. This one is better than the one night stand but doesn’t require a commitment from either party. These are two people that like a lot of the same things and are attracted to each other sexually. While this may sound a lot like the beginning of a real relationship, it can actually be the result of a good friendship. This is all some people require to be happy.

Then, there’s the relationship where a couple are in love and live together with no intentions of getting married. These couples can be either monogamous or have an open style relationship. This type of relationship is becoming more popular in recent times for many reasons.
Then, there’s the traditional relationship where a couple is in love with each other and choose to follow the approach of actually getting married. This relationship is a lot more difficult to have than the other ones because it’s much more serious. In a marriage, two people are committing to each other and making some pretty strong promises to each other in the process. They’re promising not to be with anyone else and to stay together in good times and bad times until death parts them. This is the ultimate goal of many single people and is the hardest to attain, yet it CAN be done.

One last type of relationship, and not too common, is the trial relationship. A ceremony is conducted that binds a couple together for a certain time period, usually one year. If, at the end of that time, they want to enter into a traditional marriage, that’s what will happen. If they’ve decided it’s not what they wanted, they can part ways peacefully.
So, all in all, there just may be someone for everyone in the world. It just comes down to what you’re looking for.

Love Yourself First

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By , June 24, 2015 9:33 am

Of all the relationships that you’ll ever have throughout your life, the most important one is the relationship that you have with yourself. The reason for this is because how you feel about yourself is going to reflect in every other relationship you ever become involved in. If you have bad feelings about yourself, the chances are good that you’re going to have a hard time being in a loving relationship. Those negative feelings will show themselves in the way you conduct yourself with the person you’re supposed to be in love with. However, if you find it impossible to love yourself, how are you going to be able to love anyone else?
If you’re having some issues with loving yourself, there are some ways that you can push that along. First of all, learn the definition of self-respect. When you respect yourself, you’ll make sure that others adhere to the boundaries that you’ve set for yourself. As long as you allow everyone to cross those boundaries, your life is invaded and you’re no long able to have any self-respect because people are always going to be taking advantage of you. A lot of people realize it when they’re being taken advantage of and it produces feelings of hurtfulness and humiliation. Just don’t let that happen to you.
Realize that you’re a valuable and worthwhile human being. When you let yourself be berated and trod upon by others, you develop a sense of being worthless. Never let anyone tell you that you’re stupid, dumb or unimportant. If you allow this from people, soon enough you’ll start to believe it yourself. It nibbles away at your self-confidence and self-esteem until you actually believe that you don’t deserve anyone or anything good in your life. You end up settling for those guys that expect you to be their gravy train along with their maid. Don’t do that to yourself.
So many women in abusive relationships are there because they allowed others to make them believe that they belonged in those types of relationships. They’ve been taught through the years that they deserve to be hit and yelled at by the man that’s supposed to love them above all overs. In spite of what you may believe, that’s not love. The man that will treat his wife or girlfriend that way does not love her. Nor does he respect her. Don’t let yourself be sucked into this sick and twisted type of situation.
If you find that you have these feelings of worthlessness, you must get some help in fixing that immediately. Make no mistake; if you feel this way about yourself, you are damaged or broken in some way and need to be repaired. The person or persons responsible for treating you so badly that you do view yourself this way needs more help than you do. They need to learn the damage they’ve caused and they need to learn to feel shame for having done that. Then they can get to work on why they felt the need to behave that way.
Do whatever you must to love yourself. It’s the only way you’ll ever have a happy and successful relationship with anyone else.

Is There Romance After Kids

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By , June 22, 2015 4:59 am

Something that most couples don’t take into consideration when deciding to have a baby is just how much their life together is going to change once that baby is born and a huge part of their lives. There will be no more spur of the moment weekend getaways or just deciding to eat dinner at a restaurant. Everything you do must be coordinated around whether or not you’ve got a babysitter or if the baby can go with you.
Your freedom is almost non-existent. In fact, it’s this issue that causes the most problems between you and your partner once you become parents. The exception to that is if you’ve got a couple of reliable babysitters or if you’ve got enough money to pay a live-in nanny to be on call 24/7. That’s not always the best solution because most parents want to take care of their babies independently. So now you’re back to having no freedom.
Babies are also notorious for regularly interrupting those special romantic moments between you and your partner. They may not come around as often as before because the baby needs lot of care and attention. So when the two of you are finally able to fall into bed together, you’re both so exhausted that sex is the last thing on either of your minds. Between all of the low energy and no time together, you both probably start wondering if the romance has left your relationship forever.
Before you start to give up on ever having one of those special moments with your man again, there are ways that you can keep the romance in your relationship in spite of the fact that you now have a baby to take care of. They’re all things that you need to get in place, however, before the baby arrives. You’re going to have enough going on with caring for a newborn and there won’t be time to organize anything.
To begin with, if you live near either or both of your parents, that’s usually a great thing. Most grandparents are thrilled to babysit anytime you want them to. In fact, they usually beg to be allowed to babysit. If that’s your case, let them! They wouldn’t volunteer if they didn’t want to. Keep that in mind. Those built-in babysitters will be lifesavers.
If you don’t live around your parents or other doting relatives, you’ll have to take another direction. Find reliable and responsible babysitters before the baby arrives. Interview several and be sure to check all references. Sometimes you’ll have some great friends that you can trust to care for your child, so definitely put them on the list. It’s always a better idea to line up several babysitters so that if you run into problems, there’s always another one on the list to call.
You’re going to love your baby more than you’ve ever loved anyone or anything in your life. That may be the first shock you’ll experience. You may even be so enthralled with your child that you can’t bear being away from him. Keep in mind, though, that in order to be a good parent, you need to be allowed to be a real person, too. That includes being romantic.

Youll Love Again

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By , June 19, 2015 11:43 pm

When a relationship ends, and especially if it ends badly, you may feel like there will never be anyone else in your life again that you’ll love, or even WANT to love. Depending on the reasons for the relationship ending, you may simply feel that you don’t want to ever be in another romantic relationship again. The pain may feel as if it’s just too much to bear and nothing something that you want to experience again. That’s all very understandable at first. However, there are other things you need to consider before you decide to enter a convent.
Yes, breaking up with someone that you love IS hard and it does hurt a lot. Be glad that you can feel the pain because, otherwise, you would be considered as unfeeling. So, as awful and strange as it may sound, you need to celebrate the fact that you’re hurting. That means that you can go through the grieving process and come out on the other side of it feeling healed and more confident about moving forward in your life.
The worst thing you can possibly do at the end of a relationship is to vow that you’ll never love anyone again. While it may not be realistic for you to immediately jump into a rebound relationship, you certainly shouldn’t assume that you’ll never experience love in your life again. Instead, you need to go through the healing process from your current broken relationship so that you can recover. Then, you’ll be able to see a bit more clearly in the area of future relationships.
Something you’ll want to do while healing from your breakup is to look back and see if you can pinpoint what happened to cause the end. Was it something that you did or did not do? That’s not to say that the blame was all on you because, except in the cases of cheating, it usually takes two people to break up a relationship. So whatever you did to contribute to the ending of it, you can be pretty sure that your partner also played his part. This is just helpful in learning what to avoid or to add to your next relationship in order to give it more of a chance to succeed.
It’s important that you never assume that because one relationship went on the fritz, you won’t be able to ever love anyone as much as you did that person. That’s simply not true unless you decide to FORCE it to be true. If that’s the road you choose to take, you’re only hurting yourself and ensuring that you’ll spend the rest of your life alone and lonely. No one is truly THAT perfect that he cannot be replaced by someone even better. All you have to do is open up your eyes and look around to notice it.
Therefore, when a relationship ends, understand that, for whatever reason, it simply wasn’t meant to be. Experience healing and look at what could have been done differently. File this information away somewhere that you can access it when you need to and then move ahead.

Healing A Broken Heart Advice On How To Get Over A Break Up

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By , June 17, 2015 6:08 pm

Is there a doctor in the house? You need help healing a broken heart. While I might not have an M.D. degree, I can give you some advice on how to get over a break up.

First of all, you need to realize that you are a worthwhile person. A relationship is a two way street. If one person is no longer participating, the relationship couldn’t work. While you might have been able to change some things, you should learn from your past mistakes, but not dwell on them.

Just because your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you does not mean that you will never be in another relationship again. In fact, you will probably be dating again before you would guess right now.

If you are going to go about healing a broken heart, you need to be prepared to move on. A practical and symbolic way to do this is to exchange all of the “stuff” you have of each other’s. Anything that you don’t give back that reminds you of your ex should be thrown away or boxed up until the pain recedes.

If you owe each other any money, this is a good time to pay up. As you can see, the idea is to close out the ties that bind.

Then, tell your ex that you don’t want to see or talk to each other for a little while. While it is possible that you’ll be friends in the future, avoid calling, texting, and emailing each other. Also, don’t make a point of following your ex on Facebook or MySpace. By clearing him or her out of your system, you are better able to move on.

Part of healing a broken heart is to get back into the world as soon as possible. This is a three step process.

First, engage with your friends and family. Let them support you through this grieving process. But, don’t bore them with your troubles. Instead, try to have fun with the people you care about.

Second, engage with the world at large. Go to the gym and work out because it will make you look and feel better. Then, look at activities you can start up to fill your time such as a book group or a cooking class.

If at all possible, try to get involved with something larger than yourself by volunteering. Not only does this fill up your time and take your energy, it also lifts your spirits.

Third, start to date again. You don’t need to fall in love with the first man or woman that you meet. Sometimes dinner is just dinner. Plan to go out on a number of dates with different people during this time when you are “testing the waters.” Show them a good time, but don’t feel obligated to fall in love. Remember that a rebound relationship is rarely fun for the other person.

Healing a broken heart takes time. But you will not be in this position forever. You will begin to love again.

They Cheated – Now What

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By , June 15, 2015 1:36 pm

These days, cheating is becoming a highly popularized hobby for people, especially younger folks who like to “play the field.” However, those who have been cheated on know that affairs are nothing to be taken lightly. They are extremely damaging blows to most all relationships. When an affair occurs, that’s usually it.
Some people wonder, though, young or old, if it’s possible to forgive your other half for infidelities. The fact of the matter is that whether you’ve been dating for almost a year, or have been married for a decade or two, the answer remains the same. The truth is that it’s complicated.
If you can forgive your lover for cheating on you, there are some complex feelings that still remain, and some problems that can still arise as a result of it all. For instance, you may be able to say you forgive them and stay in the relationship, but the doubt will stay in your mind. The only comfort you’ll ever feel in the relationship again is with complete disclosure of all meetings, plans, conversations, and whatever else applies. No privacy can exist between the two of you. This wouldn’t be as much of a feat to accomplish if you’re already married, but if you’re not, the clinginess and watchfulness would be enough to scare off nearly anyone.
In addition, if you can manage to forgive them, truly, it may be because you don’t fully love them, you’re too dependent on what they provide to lose them, or you consider yourself good for a freebie in the future. Many could argue that this kind of forgiveness isn’t true. You need to be aware that those relationships only end up failing later on down the line.
Now it’s not to say it’s impossible, but it’s unlikely that real forgiveness would be possible. There’s no harm in trying, though. A few couples may even grow closer together as a result, but the chances of this sort of thing improving a relationship are extremely slim.
If you need some help figuring everything out, remember that there’s nothing wrong with turning to a close and wise friend for some insight into your dilemma. However, if you want to really learn about what happened, try talking to your partner’s lover. Ask them about what happened and try to be as civil and mature about it as possible. If they should act unreasonable or trashy, then talk to your partner instead. Be blunt with your questions and hold out until you feel you have the truth. You can make the best decision in the matter with as much information as possible. Take all of the info you find and compile it together in your head, and you will be able to better assess the situation to come to an honest conclusion.
As a relationship is a personal matter between you and your significant other, no one else has the authority to tell you what is right or wrong. So, whatever you decide, just be sure it makes you happy.

Dating A Jokester

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By , June 13, 2015 8:08 am

One of the qualities that many women look for in a potential romantic partner is the ability to laugh. It’s a great thing when someone can laugh at themselves and make some truly funny jokes to ensure that anyone around them will also be laughing. However, there can be a problem if a guy is so into being funny that it’s like he never experiences a serious moment. He can be hot, sexy and everything else that you would ever want in a guy, but if all he does is crack jokes, how can you be certain of how he really feels about you?
First of all, decide if he really does have all of the qualities that you require in the ideal man for you. If he’s easy on the eyes, that’s certainly a factor that counts near the top of the list. How does he treat you? Does he take you to nice places on dates? Does he remember important days such as your birthday? Is he someone you can depend upon if you need comfort? All of those things also matter.
Now, let’s look at that joking thing. Does he make jokes at inappropriate times? Can you have sex without him cracking jokes the whole time? That can actually be very annoying, not to mention a real mood killer. What about when he starts laughing at other times that are meant to be romantic? That’s probably going to get on your nerves pretty quickly. You can’t forget those physical types of jokes, either. These fall into the area of sneaking up on you when you’re in the shower and playing Norman Bates while you scream and flail around. Maybe he tends to poke you in the backside every time you bend over for some reason. That’s not any fun when you get to the point that you’re afraid to shower or bend over to pick something up.
If you’re still convinced that he’s the one for you in spite of these ongoing comedy routines, it’s time to sit him down and have a very open and honest conversation about how all of his jokes are affecting your relationship. Tell him that, while you do appreciate his sense of humor, you also need to have those times when things are NOT funny, such as romance and sex. He needs to understand how it makes you feel when you’re engaging in a very intensely personal moment and he feels the need to crack a joke.
It’s very possible that you can make him see your point of view and find a way to be more humor appropriate. If he still seems to have trouble with his timing, it may be that you need to look into why he feels the need to be so funny all the time. There could be some insecurity that he’s trying to hide behind the laughter and the jokes. Lots of talking may be needed to get to the bottom of it and he may even get some benefit from speaking to a professional.
All isn’t lost just because he likes to make jokes all the time. A little patience may be all it takes.

Dating Advice For Singles

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By , June 11, 2015 3:45 am

For those people that are unattached and trying to get in the middle of the dating scene, there are some pointers that you may be able to use in trying to land a great dating partner. Most dating advice you’ll find is meant to help you become a part of a couple and no longer single. In addition, it’s mostly common sense stuff that you probably already knew but had simply forgotten. Dating in the 21st century is a lot different than in any other era, but it’s a lot of fun and can be the highlight of your life.
When you’re single, there are many doors that you can open in trying to meet that potential dating partner. However, the first thing you need to do before you start opening any of those doors is figure out what you’re looking for in a dating relationship. Then, you’ll know exactly where to look and how to make your approach to the person that interests you.
Typical places to find dating partners are through friends, at schools, churches and any other places that you may frequent. Now, your close friends that are in relationships will usually be thrilled to set you up with someone that they just KNOW is perfect for you. This can be an excellent idea or it can be a disaster. It kind of depends on just how well your friends actually know you.
If you’re religious, chances are you’re part of a church in your community. Many churches have groups for singles that allow them to mix and mingle with each other. People with the same beliefs and values are usually pretty good matches. You’ll already have something major in common and religious views are usually very important in relationships.
Another way to meet potential dating partners is through the Internet. There are literally hundreds of thousands of dating websites these days to choose from. If you don’t want to join a dating site, there are also chat rooms set up for people to get to know each other. The websites are usually safer and offer a more organized way of meeting the right people, though.
A unique dating venue that’s been around for several years is that of speed dating. Organizations put together events for singles of all kinds to attend. The attendees are then given anywhere from 3 to 5 minutes with each other to get acquainted. Once everyone has spent some time together, the event is ended. Anyone that’s interested in being contacted by someone they chatted with will pass this information on to the organizers and that will be given to the person in question. What happens after that is in the hands of the chosen ones. This isn’t a free way of meeting dating partners but it can be a fun way to spend an evening.
Just remember that no matter how you choose to find your dating partners, be safe about it. Go slow at first and take all precautions. You’ll be happy you did.

Sometimes You Have To Leave To Be Happy

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By , June 8, 2015 10:14 pm

While more and more families are supporting their gay members, there are still quite a few that just refuse to accept the lifestyle that their relatives are involved in. Ignorance abounds when it comes to the many blows that are dealt to gay members of society. Most people still feel that being gay is something that is chosen, and they refuse to accept the reality that the majority of gay people were simply born that way, just as straight people are. Lately, a rather prominent actress stated publically that she “chose” to be gay, which isn’t helping the plight of kids that need to come out to their parents. However, there’s another option for many gay people that don’t get the support and acceptance they need. It’s rather simple, really. They find a great place to relocate to.
That’s right. These people that have failed to receive the love, support and acceptance from the ones that are SUPPOSED to be offering those things have chosen, instead, to seek out other areas where they may be able to find what they need as well as happiness. For instance, a young man living in a small southern town in the Bible Belt finally comes out to his parents only to be thrown out of the house right around the holidays. On top of that, they refuse to continue paying for his college tuition unless he renounces being gay. So he lives with various friends for a couple of years, supporting himself by working as a cook, and finally decides to just pick a destination and buy a bus ticket. His destination lands way on the other side of the country. However, as soon as he steps off the bus, he’s welcomed into the home of some online gay friends. Within six months, he’s not only got a great home, but a good job AND is involved with the young man of his dreams.
That’s a true story, by the way. He was sad to leave his friends behind but finally understood that the only way his life was going to move forward in a better direction was for him to make the necessary changes. Once he committed to doing that, everything turned around. His new partner’s family has embraced him and he’s happier than he’s ever been in his life. He would never have found all of that if he had remained where he was simply stomping his feet in a mud puddle.
It’s not easy to so drastically change your way of life. On the other hand, it could be one of the best decisions and moves you’ve ever made in your life. This is especially true if the city you choose to make your new home is “gay friendly.” There will be many other like-minded people just waiting to meet you and help to welcome you into your new life. When you’re in a place where you’re accepted and can be proud of the person you are, you’ll have found the type of peace that you’ve never enjoyed before.

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