Setting Healthy Boundaries

By , October 12, 2015 8:01 pm

There are some women that just can’t seem to set the type of boundaries that they need in their relationships or even just for dating. Many reasons exist for this to happen, but what it comes down to is that a lot of women simply have trouble saying the word “no.” They have this problem even when they know what they want their boundaries and rules for dating to be. When it comes down to it, setting these boundaries take perseverance and willpower to be successful.
One reason to set and keep these personal boundaries is to boost your self-respect. These boundaries help you care for and protect your body, mind and spirit. They also give you the right to have equal footing in the relationship. In other words, if you want to have a successful relationship, the most important thing you can do is set some healthy boundaries.
One of the first ways that you can start to set relationship boundaries is to reflect on past relationships that you’ve had. Figure out what you would have done differently. Then list the mistakes that you made. You’re likely to find that most, if not all, of these happened because you let down on your boundaries. This should be a leisurely process so that you can identify the pattern of your behavior when it comes to relationships.
Next, you need to make a new list of healthy boundaries. Take the knowledge you gained from those past mistakes so you can initiate the changes you need to make now. Decide if you need to add any new boundaries to the list, including those of internet dating and social media.
Now, you need to prioritize your own well-being. In spite of how it may sound, this isn’t being self-centered or selfish. At least not in the way you would think. Don’t depend on another person to make what you need and want their first priority. That’s what you should be doing. In a healthy relationship, each partner is in control of their own happiness. You’ll also find that if you take care of yourself, others around you will also do so.
Last, but not least, you need to be open with your communications. You and your partner will each have ideas regarding what boundaries are needed to feel respected and safe. If there’s a problem of some sort, you must talk it over. You can’t allow it to just be swept under the rug without being dealt with. Your boundaries show a lot about your integrity and principles. If you can discuss personal boundaries together, you can create more intimacy within the relationship.
If you want your relationship to be healthy, you must have healthy boundaries. Each relationship must have some compromise, but you must never let go of what you feel is important just so someone will stay with you. When you maintain your own boundaries in relationships, those wrong men will fall to the side, leaving room for the right ones to come into your life.

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