Getting Your Boyfriend Back

By , October 19, 2015 10:44 am

Most breakups are terribly painful, particularly for the partner that didn’t want the breakup. Something that the partners left behind should remember is that not all breakups are permanent. Sometimes all it takes is a little effort and work to get your boyfriend to return to you. Actually, the renewed relationship can be even better than the original one.
Start by showing that you’ve learned something from past mistakes. Closely examine how things went the first time around and pay attention to the complaints your ex may have had about you. Most of these probably didn’t make sense to you, but there will be some that you’ll need to admit are valid ones. Forget about the complaints you didn’t understand and focus on the ones that you feel are justified.
Do things to make him remember why he loved you. Try to recall the person you used to be at that time and compare her to the person you were at the end of the relationship. The person you want to become again is the one that he fell in love with. Focus on reviving any positive attitudes that turned negative. Not only will you become attractive to your ex again, but you’ll become stronger and more independent.
Even though your breakup has been very hard on you, be a supportive friend to your ex. While showing him that you’re a bigger person than most by being able to do this, you’ll also be showing him that your support is limited to only that of a friend now. You should start ending phone conversations first because you’ve got plans. He’ll remember that was a time when he had all the support he needed from you.
Win over his friends and you may see a renewed interest from him. If you can get his friends to like you, they’ll start asking him how he could let someone like you slip through his fingers. That can also start him wondering the same thing.
Memories can also be a strong help. If you were together a while, you’ve probably got a lot of very wonderful and loving memories that you made together. Find ways to make him recall some of these without making it look obvious. You can do this by recreating certain events or activities that were a part of special moments in your relationship.
Of course, you should also look your best when you know you’re going to run into him. Be very positive, too, without overdoing it. Let your pleasant side come out so that he can see what he’s been missing. On the other hand, avoid making drunken phone calls to him.
Finally, make sure that getting him back is what you really want. You might be spending so much energy on getting back this ex-boyfriend that you’ve completely missed seeing that this amazing new guy keeps trying to get you to notice him. So consider this very carefully. After all, an ex is an ex for a reason. But if you still want him, then think positively and take action.

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