Talk It Out

By , November 6, 2015 2:49 am

You know your relationship is in danger when you come home and find most of your stuff sitting out on the front porch. The problem with that is that you should have known a long time before that there were problems, but you refused to accept the fact that things were going downhill. Now, every guy out there has had to spend a night or two on the sofa because of something they did, but when you find your stuff sitting on the porch, it’s usually too late for flowers or a romantic dinner to set things right again.
The thing you need to realize is that you should have been doing the flowers and dinners before you found your stuff on the front porch. Most guys think that just because they have been married for ten years or longer that they don’t have to worry about all those spur of the moment things that you used to do when you were dating. The truth is that is exactly what you should be doing, and you should make sure that it is for no particular reason as well. Doing it only on special occasions is nice, but kind of predictable.
You are going to find that if you surprise your wife from time to time with something they would expect, it will lessen the likeliness of your stuff being thrown out on the front porch. That means you won’t have to worry about sleeping on your friend’s sofa until you figure out what you are going to be doing with your life. You will also find that it will keep her on her toes trying to figure out why you are being so nice for no reason. That’s something you can use to your advantage in the next argument you get into.
The main thing you should remember is that you should never take your wife for granted. You may not understand everything that sets her off, but she is the only one that actually wanted to marry you, and because of that, you got lucky. You may think that going back to your bachelor life would be fun, but things have changed since the time when you were single and you aren’t going to find things fun after a month or so. It is much better for you to keep your wife happy than it is to be single these days.
All jokes aside, you should do everything in your power to make sure that you and your wife can talk through your arguments rather than getting into fights. Keeping the lines of communication open is extremely important to make your relationship as strong as possible, and to do that you have to talk to each other. You can’t just keep things bottled up inside you and expect your partner to understand what is wrong with you. Give your wife the benefit of the doubt and explain things in a non-defensive manner so that the two of you can talk it all out and keep your stuff from being thrown out onto the porch.

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