Do You Have Good Friends

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By , February 29, 2020 7:12 pm

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Friends are a gift of God. If we have good friends, we should assume that God has showered us with His unlimited grace.

Friends are a gift of God. If we have good friends, we should assume that God has showered us with His unlimited grace. What does a good friend mean? What are the differences between ordinary friends and good friends? What is friendship?

Let us begin our enquiry by asking about what is friendship? Can it be defined? What is the relationship of friendship? What qualities does this relationship have? When two persons share common interests, care for each other, enjoy being together and help each other, they are called as friends. Is this a correct definition? It broadly covers the areas of friendship.

For being a good friend, we should share more of these qualities. Is that right? Say, you share some interests with your friend, and there are few things that interest you, but are of no interest to your friend. Does this make your friendship ordinary? Sit back and count your good friends. Now count the interests that you share and those that you don’t. Is there any mathematical formula? Can one be a good friend, even if one shares very few interests? Provided of course, that our qualities that I mentioned above are in plenty?

What about caring for each other? Many a times, we find that friends are careless in their relationship, but when it comes to crunch situations, they come forward with all their might and show tremendous care. Does this imply, that even if a friend is not much caring on a day-to-day basis, he/she can still be a good friend, if there is a strong affinity that brings them together?

Let us talk of enjoying each other’s company. Does this mean that good friends avoid others? Are they always found together? What if they don’t meet each other for a month? This relationship is indefinable. Isn’t it? Because being a good friend of someone may mean that we care for each other deeply, but need not show it always. We are ready to help whenever the need arises. That even if we are not together all the time, we love being together. We defend each other whenever any external threat arises. The last test is the final test of good friendship. Friends may remain away for a long period and continue
with their life, but when the need arises, they are together. They share a bond that ties them together. They have shared so much with each other that the past always carries itself in the future.

Friendship means that we like each other. We have shared some great moments together. We value and respect each other. Unless there is a bond of hearts and emotions, no outward sign can make a friendship good.

¿Estas satisfecho con tus relaciones sexuales?

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By , February 26, 2020 10:31 pm

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En una encuesta se encontr?que la mayoría de las personas no están satisfechas con su vida sexual. Vea ud los argumentos y hágase la pregunta.

Según una encuesta realizada en 26 países result?que solo un 44 por ciento de las personas están satisfechas con su vida sexual.

Los países en los que fue realizada la encuesta fueron Brasil, México Estados Unidos, Grecia, Sudáfrica, España, Inglaterra, Polonia, Nueva Zelanda, Japón e India, Italia, entre otros. Esta encuesta fue realizada a través del Internet, 26 mil cuestionarios fueron enviados a los 26 países.

Por lo general muchas personas que no tienen pareja tienen relaciones sexuales a menudo, pero por lo contrario hay varias personas que tienen su pareja desde hace varios años y además viven juntos y tienen pocas relaciones, de esto resulta que la relación entre en una rutina y que las relaciones sexuales reduzcan notoriamente.

A veces de esto resultan problemas de pareja porque la rutina afecta y las cosas poco a poco se vuelven automáticas. Es por eso que hay que tomar decisiones desde el principio para que la relación no se vuelva monótona y las cosas continúen de la mejor forma.

De los resultados de la encuesta realizada surgi?que la mayoría de las personas no estan satisfechas son la vida sexual que llevan y además dicen que entre mas tiempo lleva la pareja, menor frecuencia tienen relaciones sexuales. Es por eso que las parejas deben comunicarse y tratar de llevar una vida normal. Para aquellas que ya esta en esa rutina y no tienen relaciones sexuales pueden buscar diferentes formas de solucionar su problema. Pueden ir a terapia de pareja a una sexóloga o simplemente pueden tratar de resolverlo solos comprando diferentes juegos en sex shop o hacer diferentes cosas.

Mirando los reportes que envía la fábrica de condones Durex sobre la encuesta, se dijo que alcanzar el orgasmo esta relacionado con la satisfacción sexual y que solo un 48 % de las personas encuestadas consigue el orgasmo.

Los países en los que menos logran llegar al orgasmo son China y Hong Kong. Brasil, Grecia y Rusia son los países en los que se reporta mayor cantidad de relaciones sexuales por semana. Nigeria y EE.UU. reportan menos cantidad de relaciones sexuales semana. Y los que lideran son España e Italia que son los países en los que mas orgasmos tienen con un promedio de 8 de cada 10 relaciones sexuales.

Hay que tener en cuenta que las situaciones climáticas en cada país son diferentes y no en todos los países hay diferentes estaciones. Algunas veces el apetito sexual varía en las condiciones climáticas.

Entonces tengan en cuenta que si ud tiene problemas en su sexualidad puede ver a un doctor o tomar diferentes decisiones acerca de eso. Para muchos hombre y mujeres es muy importante tener buenas relacionen sexuales con su pareja. Muchos de los hombres dicen que dejan a sus parejas porque no se sienten a gusto sexualmente on ellas.

Al final de cuentas no se sabe que es mejor, si tener sexo antes de ser novios o solo después. Cada uno debe decidir para si mismo lo que mas le convenga. Lo importante es estar sano y vivir feliz.

Según una encuesta realizada en 26 países result?que solo un 44 por ciento de las personas están satisfechas con su vida sexual.

Los países en los que fue realizada la encuesta fueron Brasil, México Estados Unidos, Grecia, Sudáfrica, España, Inglaterra, Polonia, Nueva Zelanda, Japón e India, Italia, entre otros. Esta encuesta fue realizada a través del Internet, 26 mil cuestionarios fueron enviados a los 26 países.

Por lo general muchas personas que no tienen pareja tienen relaciones sexuales a menudo, pero por lo contrario hay varias personas que tienen su pareja desde hace varios años y además viven juntos y tienen pocas relaciones, de esto resulta que la relación entre en una rutina y que las relaciones sexuales reduzcan notoriamente.

A veces de esto resultan problemas de pareja porque la rutina afecta y las cosas poco a poco se vuelven automáticas. Es por eso que hay que tomar decisiones desde el principio para que la relación no se vuelva monótona y las cosas continúen de la mejor forma.

De los resultados de la encuesta realizada surgi?que la mayoría de las personas no estan satisfechas son la vida sexual que llevan y además dicen que entre mas tiempo lleva la pareja, menor frecuencia tienen relaciones sexuales. Es por eso que las parejas deben comunicarse y tratar de llevar una vida normal. Para aquellas que ya esta en esa rutina y no tienen relaciones sexuales pueden buscar diferentes formas de solucionar su problema. Pueden ir a terapia de pareja a una sexóloga o simplemente pueden tratar de resolverlo solos comprando diferentes juegos en sex shop o hacer diferentes cosas.

Mirando los reportes que envía la fábrica de condones Durex sobre la encuesta, se dijo que alcanzar el orgasmo esta relacionado con la satisfacción sexual y que solo un 48 % de las personas encuestadas consigue el orgasmo.

Los países en los que menos logran llegar al orgasmo son China y Hong Kong. Brasil, Grecia y Rusia son los países en los que se reporta mayor cantidad de relaciones sexuales por semana. Nigeria y EE.UU. reportan menos cantidad de relaciones sexuales semana. Y los que lideran son España e Italia que son los países en los que mas orgasmos tienen con un promedio de 8 de cada 10 relaciones sexuales.

Hay que tener en cuenta que las situaciones climáticas en cada país son diferentes y no en todos los países hay diferentes estaciones. Algunas veces el apetito sexual varía en las condiciones climáticas.

Entonces tengan en cuenta que si ud tiene problemas en su sexualidad puede ver a un doctor o tomar diferentes decisiones acerca de eso. Para muchos hombre y mujeres es muy importante tener buenas relacionen sexuales con su pareja. Muchos de los hombres dicen que dejan a sus parejas porque no se sienten a gusto sexualmente on ellas.

Al final de cuentas no se sabe que es mejor, si tener sexo antes de ser novios o solo después. Cada uno debe decidir para si mismo lo que mas le convenga. Lo importante es estar sano y vivir feliz.

Christening Invitations are made for the Noble Cause

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By , February 24, 2020 12:45 am

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A child in a home is a gift from God. When a child born and enters into the religious environment of the family, he or she needs to be welcomed by the family members and the society. In Christian culture christening is the occasion when a newborn or a child enters into the religious world of the family.

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A child in a home is a gift from God. When a child born and enters into the religious environment of the family, he or she needs to be welcomed by the family members and the society. In Christian culture christening is the occasion when a newborn or a child enters into the religious world of the family. A christening event is the other name for baptism or you can mention it as the welcoming of newborn into Christian faith. Such occasions are really meaningful in all aspect for a family. During this period a family will definitely want to invite their near and dear ones to be a part of their child’s christening ceremony.

Christening invitations are the perfect one that can fulfill your desire on your child’s christening ceremony. Inviting guests is no longer a tedious task with the availability of christening invitations in the market. There is a great variety of christening invitation available that can mark your child’s christening. There are few factors to be considered while ordering the christening invitations for your purpose. The theme or the symbolic element for your christening ceremony plays a vital part. Christening invitations needs to be selected on the base of your child’s gender. There are many attractive christening invitations for both boys and girls.

There is lots of theme that you can incorporate with christening invitations. Cross is an important element to signify the holiness of the occasion. In Christian faith Cross is the symbol for washing away of sins and profession of faith. Otherwise you can put a heart, flowers or floral design to make christening invitations more attractive. If you want to personalize a christening invitation then you can put your child’s photo on it. You need to mention everything about the venue and time about the occasion.

You can find Christening invitations online. You can order them online by selecting the right one for you. Christening invitations are now getting easy and affordable to order online. Above all christening invitations are really important because these are all made for a noble cause.

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Alone, Who Are You?

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By , February 21, 2020 3:55 am

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Relationships generally begin when both people are in the “Alone Stage,?although I am aware that often affairs begin when one or both partners are involved with someone else. It is my contention that relationships have a greater chance of success when both parties have spent some time alone and unconnected with a lover.

What does a person do with this time alone? If you are interested in creating the relationship you deserve, then you must become the best person you can b…

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Relationships generally begin when both people are in the “Alone Stage,?although I am aware that often affairs begin when one or both partners are involved with someone else. It is my contention that relationships have a greater chance of success when both parties have spent some time alone and unconnected with a lover.

What does a person do with this time alone? If you are interested in creating the relationship you deserve, then you must become the best person you can be. Each successive relationship we engage in provides us with lessons and information we need to reflect upon. If we are attracting the “wrong?people into our lives, then perhaps it is because we are not the person we need to be in order to create a relationship with the person of our dreams.

This also means that each “wrong?person we attract into our lives is exactly the right person we need to teach us the lesson we need to get to move closer to the person we truly want. This is why I never look back at any relationships I have had with regret. Maybe not in the moment, but over time, I have come to understand that I learned valuable lessons in each of my past relationships and I grew, which then helped me become a better person.

Whenever we find ourselves in between relationships, it is not a time to longingly wish for the next partner to arrive. It is not the time to go out “prowling?for the next person to make you complete. The time between relationships is a very important healing time. It is a time to look back on the past relationship to discover what that person was there to teach you about life, love and yourself. It’s a time of introspection to determine who you want to be in a relationship. I’m not talking about playing roles but I am talking about a genuine transformation of yourself into the person who deserves the relationship you seek.

No one dreams their entire life about meeting a mediocre partner-someone who thinks of them sometimes, who loves them a little and takes care of some of their needs. No one looks to get involved in relationships with people who lie, cheat and disrespect them. No one asks for verbal or physical abuse in a relationship. So how can we break the pattern of choosing the same type of person over and over again? I believe the key is to look at each relationship as the perfect relationship you needed at that point in time and then go about attempting to figure out what it was about the person that made him or her perfect for you during that period in your life.

Once you figure this out, you will have learned a valuable lesson. If you take that lesson and put it to use in your life, then you have one half of the equation.

The other half is about preparing yourself to be the kind of person who will attract the relationship of your dreams. If you are seeking a person to be loyal and to stand by you no matter what, then ask yourself the difficult question of whether or not you have those same traits and characteristics you seek. If there is something in your character that has caused you to be disloyal, then do some introspection to learn what you need to heal in order to become the person you truly want to be.

Relationships only act as a mirror, showing us those things about ourselves we don’t want to see. When we welcome the information and seek to learn from it, doing so will move us closer in the direction of becoming who we want to be.

It also helps during this alone time to take an inventory of the traits, qualities and characteristics we want in our “perfect mate.?It is far more likely that we will attract the person we want when we become crystal clear about exactly what we are looking for. My list included having someone to love me for who I am, not in spite of who I am. I wanted a partner with loyalty, integrity, honesty, good looks, intelligence, a sense of humor, romance and availability (not involved with someone else). I wanted a man who was strong but gentle, decisive but sensitive and confident without being conceited. I wanted someone with whom I shared common interests and someone who didn’t feel the need to control me or compete with me. Guess what? After I was clear about what I was looking for, the “perfect?person for me walked into my life.

Another thing I find extremely helpful during the “Along Stage?is to remember that you are perfect just the way you are. You are totally complete without a significant person to share your life. So often, in the Along Stage, we are focusing on our lack, instead of our abundance. We look at the one thing we don’t have, a romance, and waste the time we have been given feeling sorry for ourselves instead of putting the gift of time to use for the betterment of mankind in our own unique way.

In conclusion I say, first allow yourself alone time. Don’t be in such a hurry to jump into the next relationship before processing the last one. Take time to analyze the lesson in your past relationship(s). Use the alone time to search introspectively to assess whether or not you are the person you need to be to allow the person you seek to come into your life. And finally, focus not on your lack of relationship, but rather on what you can do to help others during this time.

Used wisely, your alone time can truly make an incredible difference in the way you experience your next relationship. Don’t short change yourself. Maximize and leverage the time you have been given between relationships. It is truly a gift.

Can This Relationship Be Helped?

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By , February 18, 2020 7:06 am

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I have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What are their chances of saving their relationship?

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I have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What are their chances of saving their relationship?

Since two people always get together at their common level of woundedness, here is what I say to the partner who has sought my help: “As long as you choose to remain in this relationship, there are things for you to learn. Each partner contributes their 100% to the relationship. While it is often easy to see what your partner is doing that is harmful to the relationship, it is often difficult to see what you are doing. Yet until you learn about your part in this relationship system, you will take your own dysfunctional behavior with you into another relationship. It’s generally a waste of time – unless there is physical abuse – to leave a relationship before healing your own end of the system. The time to leave is when you have learned to make yourself happy regardless of what your mate is doing. When you learn to take 100% responsibility for your own feelings and needs, and if your partner is still behaving in ways that are unacceptable to you, then it’s time to leave. You need to discover how to respond to your partner in ways that are loving to yourself and that support your own joy and highest good.?
When the partner who is available to counseling does his or her inner work, one of two things happen. Either the other partner likes what is happening and becomes more open, or the relationship becomes more distant and difficult. I tell my clients that it is a 50-50 deal – half the time things get better and half the time they get worse. They need to be okay with either outcome. If fact, I encourage them to let go of the outcome and just be in the process of learning how to take loving care of themselves.

Let’s take some examples. Craig is unhappy in his marriage because his wife, Gloria, is often angry and judgmental toward him. Craig sees himself as the victim of Gloria’s unloving behavior, blaming her for his unhappiness. However, Craig is a equal part of the relationship system. He generally reacts to Gloria’s anger with compliance, giving himself up in his covert attempt to control Gloria’s anger. He believes that being a “nice guy?will control her feelings and behavior. So, while Gloria is attempting to overtly control Craig, Craig is attempting to covertly control Gloria. Until Craig starts to speak his truth rather than give himself up as his form of control, he will feel resentful and distant with Gloria. If he has the courage to take loving care of himself by speaking his total truth without blame or judgment, and take loving action for himself based on his truth, then either things will get better or they will get worse. The only way Craig will be able to be honest and take care of himself is if he is willing to lose Gloria rather than continue to lose himself.

Marilyn is married to Martin, a non-abusive functioning alcoholic. The problem for Marilyn is that when Martin drinks, which is every night, he completely disconnects from her and she feel very lonely with him. She’s tried in many ways to get Martin to connect to her, but nothing has worked. Most nights, Marilyn just watches TV, feeling sad and alone.

Until Marilyn decides to do whatever she needs to do to make herself happy, nothing will change. If she decides to take classes, get together with friends, join a support group or go to Alanon, she will no longer be a victim of Martin’s decision to withdraw through alcohol. If Marilyn continues to take care of herself over a time – six months to a year – and nothing changes, then she can decide to leave. Or, she can decide to stay and just continue making herself happy. The possibility also exist that when Marilyn stops pulling on Martin to make her happy, he may decide to deal with himself rather than be left alone most of the time.

Can this relationship be helped? Maybe. Do your own inner work and find out!

Christian Roommates – Finding Good Company

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By , February 15, 2020 10:35 am

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In 1 Corinthians 15:33, Paul wrote: “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.?This statement should be your guiding light when selecting your next roommates.

In the same way that your family influenced you growing up, the people you live with now will also change the way you speak, act and think. This is great news if you pick solid, Christian roommates who will help you to grow. Proverbs 27:17 says that “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.?…

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In 1 Corinthians 15:33, Paul wrote: “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.?This statement should be your guiding light when selecting your next roommates.

In the same way that your family influenced you growing up, the people you live with now will also change the way you speak, act and think. This is great news if you pick solid, Christian roommates who will help you to grow. Proverbs 27:17 says that “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.?
However, the influence of your roommates can also corrupt your good character according to the verse from 1 Corinthians. Rather than being sharpened, you can be slowly whittled away. The worst part is, this happens slowly and gradually and you may not even realize you’re changing.

So how can you avoid bad company in your new roommates? Make sure you choose people that you are familiar with. People who you’ve had a chance to watch for a good year or so. This will ensure that you know the person you’re about to move in with. Spend some time with them in a variety of situations. Is there anything questionable about their beliefs or activities? Ask a couple people for advice as well. Some of your friends may have seen a different side of your potential roommate.

What if you’re not thinking of moving in with anyone you know? What if it has to be someone random? This is most likely the case if you’re moving into a dorm your first year of college. You’re really going to have to rely on God to provide you with someone who will be good company. Either way, it may be good to have some up front conversations to lay down a framework for what your apartment/dorm will be like. You can let your roommate know, gently of course, that drugs and heavy drinking aren’t cool with you and that you’re not really into partying too much. Don’t come across as self-righteous and your roommate will understand.

If you’re in a situation where you’ve been thrown in with a roommates with bad character, find some support outside of your dorm. Join a church nearby or find an on-campus group to hang out with. A group that can sharpen you and give you advice and help. Through them, you might even have an opportunity to change your roommate into good company.

Commitment Phobia: Are You Commitment Phobic?

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By , February 12, 2020 12:53 pm

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Marilee, a client of mine, was commitment phobic. “I’d love to be in a loving relationship,?she told me in one of our counseling sessions, “but I’m not willing to give up my freedom. I have a great life. I love my work and my friends. I love to travel and take workshops and classes. I don’t want anyone telling me what I can or can’t do. I don’t want to deal with someone feeling hurt because I want to work rather than be with him. It’s just not worth all the hassle.?

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Marilee, a client of mine, was commitment phobic. “I’d love to be in a loving relationship,?she told me in one of our counseling sessions, “but I’m not willing to give up my freedom. I have a great life. I love my work and my friends. I love to travel and take workshops and classes. I don’t want anyone telling me what I can or can’t do. I don’t want to deal with someone feeling hurt because I want to work rather than be with him. It’s just not worth all the hassle.?

Marcus, another of my clients, was also commitment phobic. “When I’m not in a relationship, that’s all I can think about it. I really want someone to play with, to love and to grow with. But soon after getting into a relationship, I start to feel trapped. I feel like I can’t do what I want to do and I start to resent the person for limiting me. Most of the time, she has no idea what’s going on and is stunned by the break-up. She thought everything was fine. After leaving her, I’m back to square one ?wanting to be in a relationship. This has happened over and over again.?

Commitment phobia has its roots in the belief that when we love someone, we are responsible for their feelings rather than for our own. Once we believe that we are responsible for another’s feelings of hurt or rejection as a result of our behavior, we believe we need to limit ourselves in order to not upset the other person. Then, instead of standing up for our own freedom and right to pursue that which brings us joy, we limit our freedom in an effort to have control over the other person’s feelings. This will always eventually lead to resentment.

“Marilee, ?I asked in one of our phone sessions, “What if you picked someone who also loved his work and his personal freedom??

“Frankly, I can’t imagine that. Every man I’ve been in a relationship with has wanted to spend more time with me than I have with him. Am I just picking the wrong man over and over??

“No,?I replied. “But you are not standing firm in your freedom from the beginning. You give a lot at the beginning because you enjoy being with him, but, as we’ve discussed, you also give yourself up a lot at the beginning. You make love when you don’t want to. You stay up later than you want to for fear of hurting him. Then, when you do start to tell the truth, he is surprised and hurt. Until you are willing to risk losing him from the beginning rather than lose yourself, you will continue to create relationships that limit your freedom. You end up believing that it is the relationship that limits you, but it is your own fears and beliefs that keep limiting you.?

In my sessions with Marcus, he discovered that he had no idea how to stand up for himself in a relationship. As soon as a woman wanted something from him, he gave it to her. He just could not bring himself to say no. Then, of course, he ended up feeling trapped.

Marcus discovered that his fear of saying no to a woman came from two sources:

1) He believed he was responsible for her feelings, and that he was bad if he did anything that upset her.

2) He was afraid that if she felt hurt, she would get angry and reject him.

As a result of these two fears, Marcus continually gave himself up in relationships. However, giving himself up created such resentment toward his partner that he eventually didn’t want to be with her anymore and left the relationship.

In order to have both our personal freedom and be in a committed relationship, we need to learn to take responsibility for our own feelings rather than the other person’s feelings, and we need to be willing to lose the other person rather than lose ourselves. Commitment phobia heals when you become strong enough to be true to yourself, even in the face of another’s anger, rejection, or loss. If you want to have a loving relationship, then you need to do the inner work necessary to develop a strong adult self who can be a powerful advocate for your personal freedom.

Are You Sucking the Passion Out of Your Relationships?

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Since relationship is the main focus of your life, when you’re not in a romantic relationship, you’re probably looking for one. You can teach others how to love and “do?intimacy.

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If you are a Lover, your passion is connection, the intimacy of giving and receiving. Whether you are sharing your gifts and talents with the world at large, or you are having a one-on-one love relationship, marital relationship, friendship, a family member, or a relationship with a co-worker, you enjoy fusing your essential being with everything in life. Connecting with other people makes you feel grounded, secure, needed, valued, supported, happy, good about yourself, comforted, and loved.

Since relationship is the main focus of your life, when you’re not in a romantic relationship, you’re probably looking for one. You can teach others how to love and “do?intimacy. When the Lover is in bloom, you light up the world. Your enthusiasm, creativity, charisma, and openness make you irresistible. Your glow ignites the glow in others and helps them grow into their full potential. Lovers are wonderful people to know and love.

But as the day is followed by the night, the Lover’s glow casts a shadow. At their worst, Lovers are “energy vampires,?over-connecters who fuse with a grip that can be intensely smothering. As the Vamp, they can be desperately needy, self-centered, and depleting. In anger, they can whip up a storm and strike out with lethal words, wanting to hurt those who have hurt them. Vamps can burn out the people in their lives with drama after drama.

Vamps can be very charismatic and sexy in relationships. When they turn their attention in your direction, they can charm the pants off you. As long as the experience lasts, you’ll feel as though you are the most brilliant, fascinating creature in the universe. The trouble is, it may not last long. As soon as they’ve got you hooked, they are likely to move on to greener pastures because Vamps are attracted to the unavailable. Deep inside, they feel unworthy; therefore they don’t want to be members of any team that would have them. Lovers have a special talent for intimacy, but until they learn how to be self-nurturing and to give without expecting something in return, they often use moments of connection to feed off the energy of others. They seduce you so that you’ll validate them in the mistaken belief that this gives them an identity. Sadly, they often don’t know how beloved and wonderful they are.

If these words seem a bit harsh, just remember that the Vamp is only the unhealed aspect of the Lover. Every “Passion Signature?or, the signature style you express yourself and seek fulfillment, has light and dark qualities. We all have our share. Knowing the drawbacks to your Passion Signature can help you overcome your commitment phobia and discover your full potential.

In my book, The Passion Principle: Discover Your Passion Signature and the Secrets to Deeper Relationships in Love, Life and Work, you will find a guide for overcoming your Vamp qualities and having the committed love relationship and marriage you deserve.

Are You a Jealous Lover?

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By , February 6, 2020 7:13 pm

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Nothing can ruin a relationship or marriage faster than jealously. Jealousy creates anxiety, anger, loneliness, hate, fear. No one thinks clearly when jealous.

Having a relationship with a jealous person is tough. The jealous person acts untrusting or unworthy. Jealousy makes the person unattractive, even repulsive.

No one wants a jealous mate and no one likes being jealous. Here are some ways to get over your jealousy…….

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What do you do when that little, green eyed monster, as it’s so often called, jealousy bites you? It can happen to the best of couples, no matter what stage your relationship is in. Sometimes, it feels like there is no defense against this ridge building phenomenon. Most people are not jealous by nature but jealousy is usually put into action by some event, situation or another person.

If you are insecure about your relationship and very dependent on your lover you are likely to be jealous. After jealousy creeps in we begin to spy on our lover, worrying about the situation and reviewing the evidence. Suspicion is a strong emotion here.

If we decide there is a threat to our love, we can have a very wide range of responses like clinging dependency, violent rage at the competitor or the partner, self-criticism, and depression with suicidal thoughts. But is there any way to conquer this feeling and overcome jealousy?

Here are some ways you can handle jealousy

1. Isolate the cause of jealousy. You may think that jealousy is caused by your partner looking sexy or by a certain person at work. But that isn’t the real cause. That is just a symptom. Try to understand what the real cause is, so that you can then work on finding a solution.

2. Focus on eliminating one jealousy trigger. You also need to realise that jealousy can be overcome easily. So start out by focusing on an activity where you work through one of the main triggers for your jealousy and try to find the cause.

3. Build up your self-esteem. Most of the jealousy situations are caused by the jealous lovers feeling that they are not good enough for their partners. They feel inadequate and they feel that their partner would leave them for someone else, if given half a chance. So one key thing to work on is to build up your self-esteem.

Communication in the Workplace – New Tips and Strategies

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Communication in the workplace is very important but with so many people involved, all with different personalities and varying levels of understanding – communication can be difficult and misunderstandings can arise.

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Communication in the workplace is very important but with so many people involved, all with different personalities and varying levels of understanding – communication can be difficult and misunderstandings can arise.

Workplaces can be hectic places where messages are flying left, right and centre: that’s prime territory for miscommunication. Try to avoid that by following a few simple guidelines.

How you need to communicate in the workplace varies a little according to your job responsibilities. Those differ sometimes in whether you have responsibility for and authority over certain other staff members. It’s important to realize that you only have authority in so far as you can get people to follow you. How successfully you get people to do that comes down to communication too!

Communication is vital in any workplace and here are some of the essential ingredients for good communication in the workplace:

1. Give clear instructions

You save time in the long run by taking time to give even simple instructions clearly and make sure they are understood. Leave a pause for people to ask questions – or invite them to do so. It’s much better if a task is understood from the start rather than you having to go back and do work again because it was done wrongly the first time.

2. Be constructive, not critical

Supervisors and bosses can all too often become critical.

Often people who have tried to organize their work or solve workplace problems themselves have been severely criticized for the solution they have implemented. Is it any wonder then why they don’t bother trying to sort anything out again? That’s not an efficient way to organize a workplace.

The main trouble with this approach arises because the natural response of someone who is being criticized is to switch off and not listen. Nobody learns anything or moves on in that way.

The other side of the coin is that when employees are empowered to make some decisions themselves, managers get more time to get on with their own job and really progress a
business. For this to work, people need to feel safe to explore alternatives, give suggestions and ask questions.

Managers also need to make sure they ask the right questions to inspire their employees and to help them to think through solutions.

3. Let people know the ‘bigger picture?

What are you all aiming for? People will work harder and smarter if they know how the work they’re doing contributes to an end product.

4. Communicate messages effectively

Workplaces often have many people working there. Messages need to be passed on efficiently through whichever medium – face-face, telephone, e-mail etc.

If you have a message to pass on, make sure you do it accurately, to the right person – and in a timely manner. If the message is long – type it rather than relying on your memory.

5. Give people the freedom to organize at least some their work

If people are clear about what needs to be done, they can understand and set a list of priorities for their own work. This keeps people motivated to work hard, but also, it makes
them work more efficiently as they know what has to be done and can switch between tasks accordingly. There’s no need for them to stop work having hit a snag when they can get on with another project.

6. Make expectations clear

End a conversation with something like,

“So – am I right in thinking that you think the project will be completed by the end of today??

Then, if people anticipate a problem, they have the opportunity to tell you if there’s going to be a problem with that. That gives you the chance – and responsibility – to help them.

7. Treat people like individuals

Everyone has different needs and different personalities. Different people will all react well to slightly different approaches. It’s good if you can find out what approaches work well for your colleagues and employees; that way, you will get the most out of each interaction and everyone will be happier.

It all comes down to communication skills – or lack of them. It’s completely your responsibility for making yourself understood – no matter how many times you have to try – and it’s the other person’s responsibility to let you know every time they don’t understand something: communication in the workplace relies upon it.

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