Challenged by your relationships? Good!

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By , July 31, 2020 4:33 am

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Why are our relationships such a challenge?

By their very nature, relationships always push us toward duality, toward the opposites. They take us into both the light of our souls and the darkness of our subconscious. They force us to look at the light and experience the shadows.

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Why are our relationships such a challenge?

By their very nature, relationships always push us toward duality, toward the opposites. They take us into both the light of our souls and the darkness of our subconscious. They force us to look at the light and experience the shadows.

If we deny the light of either ourselves or the other person, we relate to each other in conflict. If we deny the shadows of either ourselves or the other, we relate in illusion. Only by accepting both do we truly face reality and experience harmony.

Relationships also challenge us to accept the unknown of both ourselves and the other, and this is never easy. Meeting this challenge must be founded on trust. You need to trust that the other will get whatever they need from you. You also need to trust that you will get whatever you need from them.

The key word is NEED, not desire. We are not in relationships to have our desires fulfilled. It is up to us to fulfill our own desires and stop demanding that they be fulfilled by others. For example, if you have the desire to be loved, you must not demand it from someone else. You fulfill your need for love by expressing it, and no one can prevent you from doing that.

We usually create difficulties in our relationships when we let our desires get in the way of the needs. When we don’t get our desires met ?and that includes things like getting our way, getting what we want, getting love and attention, being made to feel important, being shown respect and honour, and so on ?we usually get angry, sad, resentful or revengeful. When that happens we need to stop and ask ourselves what we really need, and then give it to ourselves rather than demanding it from others.

It’s not always easy to know what we need. While we are conscious of our desires, our needs are usually related to what we are unconscious of. That’s why intimacy is an important aspect of all relationships. Intimacy exposes the unconscious and teaches us trust. Intimacy helps us to recognize needs and awakens the love to respond to those needs. It especially empowers us to meet our own needs. Intimacy says: you are acceptable and lovable just as you are.

It helps to remember that soul is the underlying guide of all relationships. We always get what we need in our relationships because the soul always responds to need. If we don’t recognize this, the problem lies only in our lack of awareness and understanding.

All of our relationships have the potential of showing us who we are as souls, and asking us to relate as souls to the other. That’s why our relationship challenges are such powerful forces for personal growth!

Bonding With Your Partner ?Without Candles, Wine Or Lingerie!

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By , July 28, 2020 7:02 am

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Many partners attempt to bond with candles, wine or lingerie, only to find their time together feeling flat, empty and passionless. In this article, discover what really creates bonding, intimacy and passion with your partner.

A journalist interviewed me regarding intimacy in relationships. One of her questions was, “What are some of the easy ways in which husband and wife can bond – without candles and wine and expensive lingerie??
Easy ways? Well, it depend…

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Many partners attempt to bond with candles, wine or lingerie, only to find their time together feeling flat, empty and passionless. In this article, discover what really creates bonding, intimacy and passion with your partner.

A journalist interviewed me regarding intimacy in relationships. One of her questions was, “What are some of the easy ways in which husband and wife can bond – without candles and wine and expensive lingerie??
Easy ways? Well, it depends on what you mean by easy!

Bonding has nothing to do with candles, wine and expensive lingerie. It has to do with INTENT. In any given moment we are in one of two possible intents:

The intent to have control over getting love and avoiding pain

The intent to learn about being loving to ourselves and to others

Virtually all of us have learned many ways of trying to have control over getting love and avoiding pain. We learned these protective behaviors when we were children, and as adults we unconsciously continue these learned controlling behaviors, such as anger, criticism, withdrawal, resistance, or compliance. For most people, these protective, controlling behaviors have become automatic and habitual. As soon as any fear is triggered, we automatically protect against the fear by arguing, blaming, attacking, judging, shutting down, resisting, or giving in. In relationships, the fears of rejection and engulfment ?of losing the other or losing ourselves ?generally underlie our protective behavior.

In a relationship, if one or both partners are closed, protected, controlling, then they cannot emotionally connect with each other. No matter how much time they spend together with candles, wine or expensive lingerie, the connection will not be there when one or both are closed and protected. Ironically, when the intent is to get love or avoid pain, what we create is a lack of love and much pain. Our intent to control brings about the very things we are trying to avoid with our controlling behavior.

Our own intent is the one thing we do have control over. We do not have control over another’s intent to be open and loving, but we do have control over our own intent to be open to learning about what it means to be loving ourselves and to others. However, it takes both people being in the intent to learn for partners to emotionally bond.

If both are open to learning, then they will be emotionally available to each other and can bond with a touch, a smile, or a kind word. Bonding has to do with the energy between them, not with anything external like candles, and the energy comes from their intent. A controlling intent creates a heavy, dark, hard, closed-hearted energy, while the open-to-learning intent creates a light, soft, open-hearted energy.

The big challenge in relationships is to stay open to learning about loving. Because we automatically and unconsciously revert to our protective, controlling behavior in the face of fear, being open to learning needs to be a conscious choice. Developing the ability to make a conscious choice regarding your intent is a learning process. The hallmark of higher consciousness is being able to choose your intent each and every moment, even in the face of fear.

When relationship partners are both able to reliably choose to be open to learning about loving themselves and each other, they create a sweet and safe environment for their love to flourish. Then candles, vacations, and lingerie can enhance their experience with each other ?the icing on the cake.

Easy ways to bond? Staying conscious and open to learning is not easy! The concept is simple, but doing it is far from easy. Yet devoting yourself to learning to stay open to learning in the face of fear may be the most fulfilling and rewarding experience in your life!

Double Your Dating – Tips To Improvement

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By , July 25, 2020 7:54 pm

If you would like to double your dating or increase the amount of dates you go on, then there are a few things you should be doing to improve your chances of someone wanting to go out with you. These include increasing your conversation skills, cleaning up and dressing nice, talking to more women, and acting confident and assertive. These are just some of the basic things you need to do in order to double your dating numbers.

One of the first things you need to do is to increase your conversation skills. There are a couple of ways to do this, one of which is to become well versed in contemporary topics that your dating age group or demographic likes to talk about. If it is sports and fashion, then you can find the latest news and current events that have happened in the past week or so. Another way to increase your conversation skills is to know how to talk to people. Never interrupt or cut people off when they are talking, and always be a good listener. Never look at someone from the side, but rather look at them dead on. Remember to keep your head lowered slightly so it does not seem like you are looking down at them. But rather tilt your head so you are eye level with them.

Before you go out to meet people, remember to clean up and dress nice. There is nothing worse than going on a date or going out to meet people without taking a shower or putting deodorant on. Sure, you may know how you smell, and you may be used to it, but your own personal smell might be offensive to some people. It is best to cover up with soap, deodorant, and possibly some cologne. Shave as well. If you are getting close to a girl, the stubble on your mustache or beard can prick her smooth skin and cause her pain. That would be a huge turn off, so avoid that as well.

See to it that you talk to more women. In order to do this, you will need to be more confident and assertive. Even though you may not think you are a confident person or have assertive capabilities, you should still act as such. When you smile and shrug off rejection, and you show women exactly what you are looking for, then they will be more attracted to you, and you will be well on your way to double your dating.

A Love Spell Could Put Some Magic In Your Love Life

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By , July 25, 2020 10:04 am

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Have you ever had a secret love and wished that person would notice you and be attracted to you? Have you longed to develop a loving relationship with someone special, but found that your best efforts don’t seem to be good enough? Have you desired a stronger and deeper relationship with your lover or special friend, but come to accept that they just don’t want it as badly as you do.

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was something you could do to open your lover’s eyes so they w…

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Have you ever had a secret love and wished that person would notice you and be attracted to you? Have you longed to develop a loving relationship with someone special, but found that your best efforts don’t seem to be good enough? Have you desired a stronger and deeper relationship with your lover or special friend, but come to accept that they just don’t want it as badly as you do.

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was something you could do to open your lover’s eyes so they were as eager as you to enter into the deeper love relationship you desire?

Many people have found exactly this kind of magic in Wiccan love spells.

Love spells are used to enhance and nourish almost any relationship or love need whether you wish to be reunited with your love, encourage your lover to make a deeper commitment, have a more passionate sex life, or even find your true love.

**What are Wiccan Love Spells?

Love spells have become a very popular form of magic (magick). Wiccan white magick spells rely on the positive energy located in all people and all things. Wiccan love spells are effective because they are designed to intensify and amplify the positive energy that is already present in a situation. They do not attempt to manufacture energy that is not already there.

There is a very broad range of love spells, each of which focuses on a slightly different objective. For instance there are love spells for reuniting with a previous love, and others for finding your true love. There are love spells to increase the passion in your love live, and others to encourage your lover to become more committed to your relationship. There are even sex and fertility spells to help in those areas.

In other words, different love spells can be used to amplify or positively influence any aspect of your love relationship.

**Is Casting a Spell an Attempt to Manipulate Others?

Love spells, as well as other Wiccan white magick spells, work with the positive energy that is in all things and all people. That means the practice of spell casting respects the free will of the people towards which the spells are directed.

While it is true that there are black magick forms of Wicca, white magick Wiccan love spells can be just as effective when cast correctly and in the right spirit. A responsible Wiccan spell caster will use spells that are worded to not be manipulative or violate free will.

For example, a reunited lovers?spell can be worded to enhance, and bring to the surface feelings that already exist for you until your lover thinks of you so much they can’t wait to have you back.

In this way the spell is not creating new feelings, nor is it making your lover bind to you outside of his or her free will. This is not only respectful of the free will of your lover, but it is also a fullfilment of your deepest desire. You want your lover to desire you from his or her own free will, not because they have been manipulated to do so, or because they have been put in a kind of trance over which they have no control.

**Who Can Cast a Wiccan Love Spell?

An experienced Wiccan spell caster is the best person to cast a love spell for you. For instance, at http://practikalmagik.com Orion has been casting spells for more than 25 years, and knows all the factors that go into casting an effective spell. The most important of these is the wording of the spell itself, but the date and time of the spell casting is also important. As Orion says, “experience has taught me that casting on the best date in the lunar month yields far greater results than if cast immediately regardless of the lunar cycle.”

On the other hand, if you prefer to cast the spell yourself, that is possible too. But obviously if you are inexperienced you will need some guidance. Orion’s “Love Spell Kit” will give you “the finest, most potent and powerful wicca love spell, herbs, crystals and candles. You will receive easy step-by-step instructions and the exact same tools used in our own personal love spell casting.”

Love spells can be an effective tool for enriching your love life. But be sure to remember the adage, “Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it.” Think carefully of the type of love spell you want to cast, the possible results and what you hope to receive from the spell. You will find that love spells, as with any magick, can help turn your desires and wishes into realities in your life.

Visit Orion Tigerhawke’s website for more information about Wiccan Love Spells. Orion guarantees you will get results or she will recast your spell until you do.

Build a Romance Bridge

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By , July 22, 2020 1:03 pm

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Ever run into a brick wall, so to speak, with your mate? Can’t seem to pass “Go?without collecting 200 fresh wounds? Well, it’s time to build a bridge and tear down that brick wall. Here are your tools:

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Ever run into a brick wall, so to speak, with your mate? Can’t seem to pass “Go?without collecting 200 fresh wounds? Well, it’s time to build a bridge and tear down that brick wall. Here are your tools:

ATTITUDE ?Get an attitude adjustment first. Lighten up and do a 180-degree about face. Read the Sunday comics, grab an old comic book, turn on the Comedy channel, watch funny videos or DVDs. Get in a better mood and pass it along to your mate. Invite your mate to tune in to comedy with you, too.

FRIENDSHIP ?Go back to being friends for starters now that you’re in a good mood. Forget the love stuff, if you want. And just focus on being good friends; share compliments, do things for one another, go out and have fun together, enjoy one another’s company.

RELAX ?Let your hair down. Trust and relax. Be yourself. Don’t let old wounds open or fester. Forget the garbage memories and just be in the here and now together.

TIME OUT ?If possible, spend extra time together for awhile, like during your original courting days. Hire a sitter, order out, eat at fast food places, grab ice cream cones and go for walks in the park. Get to know each other all over again. That’s the key. Then you’ll remember why you fell for each other in the beginning and history will hopefully repeat itself.

COMMUNICATION ?Take it slow and easy. Keep away from subjects that you don’t agree upon. And slowly re-learn to communicate with each other all over again. If necessary, and it’s not a crime or shame ?get help. Seek a trusted friend or adviser, a church clergy member or certified professional counselor. No need to go it alone. Find your weak areas and how to over come them and plan for future communication difficulties.

GOALS ?Gradually develop goals together so you’ll have a direction to head. Write them down in a notebook just for the two of you. And over time, develop them, revise them, cross them off your list. The idea is to HAVE goals together and work towards a common goal.

SCRAP BOOK ?Create a memory album together. Add photos, clippings, menus and anything that reminds you of the “good times.?Then when tough times comes, you’ll have something to “hold on to??your bridge to romance.

So don’t just sit back and sulk. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let life’s problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship.

Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers

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By , July 19, 2020 4:31 pm

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Takers and caretakers ?they often seem to find each other! As a counselor who has worked with relationships for 37 years, I can tell you that this is the most frequent relationship dynamic that I encounter.

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Takers and caretakers ?they often seem to find each other! As a counselor who has worked with relationships for 37 years, I can tell you that this is the most frequent relationship dynamic that I encounter.

Takers are people who tend to be narcissistic ?that is, they are self-centered with an excessive need for attention and admiration. The taker attempts to control getting love, attention, approval or sex from others with anger, blame, violence, criticism, irritation, righteousness, neediness, invasive touch, invasive energy, incessant talking and/or emotional drama. The taker uses many forms of both overt and covert control to get the attention he or she wants.

Takers not only want a lot of control, but are often afraid of being controlled and become overtly or covertly resistant to doing what someone else wants them to do. The taker might resist with denial, defending, procrastination, rebellion, irresponsibility, indifference, withdrawal, deadness, numbness, rigidity, and/or incompetence.

In a relationship, takers operate from the belief that “You are responsible for my feelings of pain and joy. It is your job to make sure that I am okay.?
Caretakers, on the other hand, operate from the belief that “I am responsible for your feelings. When I do it right, you will be happy and then I will receive the approval I need.?Caretakers sacrifice their own needs and wants to take care of the needs and wants of others, even when others are capable of doing it themselves. Caretakers give to others from fear rather than love – they give to get.

Neither takers nor caretakers take responsibility for their own feelings and wellbeing. Takers generally attempt to have control over others?giving them the attention and admiration they want in overt ways, while caretakers attempt to have control over getting approval in more covert ways, such as compliance, doing to much for others, and/or withholding their wants and opinions.

Because neither takers nor caretakers are taking care of themselves, they will each end up feeling angry, resentful, trapped, unappreciated, unseen, unloved, misunderstood, and/or unacknowledged.

I tell my clients that whenever they feel this way in a relationship, it is because they are expecting the other person to give them what they are not giving to themselves. When we are not seeing, valuing, acknowledging, or understanding ourselves, and when we are not attending to our own wants and needs, we will always feel upset when others treat us just like we are treating ourselves.

Codependent relationships ?relationships of two takers, two caretakers, or a taker and a caretaker ?will always run into problems. Many people leave these relationships, only to discover the same problems in their next relationships. Takers and caretakers can switch places in different relationships and over different issues, but the problems remain the same ?anger, resentment, distance, lack of sexuality, boredom, feeling unloved and unloving.

There really is a way to heal this.

Relationships heal when individuals heal. When each partner does their inner work ?for example practicing the Inner Bonding process that we teach (see www.innerbonding.com for a free course) ?their relationship system heals. When each person learns to take full personal responsibility for his or her own feelings of pain and joy, they stop pulling on each other and blaming each other. When each person learns to fill themselves with love and share that love with each other, instead of always trying to get love, the relationship heals.

Learning how to take100% responsibility for your own feelings is one of the essential ingredients in creating a healthy relationship. This means learning to be conscious of what you are feeling and being open to learning about what you are doing to create your own feelings, instead of being a victim and believing that others are causing your feelings. Your feelings come from how you treat yourself and others, from what you tell yourself and what you believe about yourself and others, rather than from others behavior. Blaming others for your feelings will always lead to major relationship problems.

Why not start today by taking your eyes off your partner and putting them squarely on yourself? In reality, you are the only one you actually have control over. You are the only one you can change.

Computer Dating Services

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By , July 19, 2020 7:13 am

So many people have gotten into trouble simply because they didn’t filter their personal information that went through on their profile when they’ve signed up for various computer dating services. So, it’s time to keep yourself in check because what’s at stake here is your future.

Just know that people constantly check on their social networking sites constantly. This means that they also communicate with others constantly here. The world is now dependent on the net, and the people you work for are just as dependent on it.

Sure, it’s so easy for you to say that these sites are part of your social life, which has nothing to do with who you really are. That’s actually not true because the boundaries can be hazy. How you conduct yourself when you want to attract someone in the online world is extremely importent.

The social butterfly in you enjoys the constant gossiping online. You love looking at the statuses of your friends, and with sites such as Twitter and Facebook, it’s so easy to know where your friends are most of the time. And just as you make friends, you can also create enemies.

The way you say things can hurt those who are extremely sensitive. One day, you just might be caught off-guard because someone talked badly about you. These things can be seen on your wall, which can be a turnoff. While you may keep some information confidential, you’ll eventually establish bonds, especially when you’ve actually connected with your potential significant other.

While it’s no business of theirs to ask, they won’t be able to help but wonder. So, are you ready for this sort of problem? If you’re not, then you better practice extreme caution.

Be responsible and make sure that people will respect you no matter what. You do enjoy swapping stories with all your buds, but sometimes, your friends don’t even care about using words that are often shocking. So, instead of responding to these the same way, maintain your dignity and just laugh it off.

Don’t trash-talk because this is sometimes a reflection of who you are as a person. Sure, there is such a thing as free speech, but then again, people are also free to express their opinions about whatever you post on your wall. Some even believe that you are what you post.

If you do have some colleagues on your friends list, then better be wary. If you have something to gripe about, talk to a friend in person or send someone a private text message. That way, you know you’re safe.

If there’s one thing you should know, it’s that you must never share any embarrassing detail about you. Computer dating services can be tricky because without face-to-face interaction, people won’t be able to read between the lines or know where you’re coming from. Remember that what you say is permanently recorded in the web. This is a scary fact that you need to be aware of.

If you don’t have anything nice to say, then just don’t say anything. Lastly, see to it that your profile picture looks genuine and natural. Don’t come out as if you’re begging for compliments. This is a sign of insecurity. Make a good impression and at the same time, stay true to yourself.

Abundance mentality.

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By , July 16, 2020 6:42 pm

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One of the biggest secrets to finding and keeping a good life partner. It,s not only what you do, but how you think.

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This is one of the biggest secrets to finding and keeping a good life partner. It not only boils down to what you do, but how you think.

Here’s what happened.

Some time ago, in my 30’s I spent nearly 2 years single. I used to wake up in the morning, leave my expensive house, get into my sports car and drive to my successful engineering business. After work, I went to the health club on my way home, exercised, played squash etc. Often women looked my way and were friendly towards me. Yet I never dated for months on end.

What’s wrong with this picture?

I had left a painful relationship, where I had been rejected by my partner daily. So I believed, that no-one would ever love me again, because I was not worth it. This belief came true in my life.

I just didn’t think that there was someone out there, interested in me. This of course made it right.

Was it because I was unattractive? Hardly, I had a good build, clear skin, was fit and healthy, and even though I didn’t look like Richard Gere, I certainly wasn’t ugly.

Was it because I was financially insecure? No, I owned a good business, drove a fancy car and lived in a big house with a view.

So there was nothing physically, causing my problem. It was all in my mind.

Hey, it gets worse. After some counseling and reading lots of books, I actually got to go and take some action to meet some new people. Then when I did find someone, guess how that worked out.

You see, deep down, I still had that limiting attitude, that I was really fortunate to get anyone at all that wanted to be with me. They sensed it like sharks smelling blood in the water. Describing it as that I partnered up with a predator, would have been an understatement.

The person I attracted, was a gold digger, having no scruples about sleeping with whoever she felt like. Was it her fault, yes BUT it was more my fault. I realized that I allowed it to happen in my mind first. I believed that this was the best I could achieve and had to accept that behavior to actually have anyone in my life at all.

Eventually the boundaries of even my twisted logic broke, when she came back after being with another man, drunk and tried to stab me with a kitchen knife.

How could I allow it to get that far? Easy, I didn’t understand that I had choices. When I realized that even being alone again was better than my present situation, I did get out of that relationship.

Cutting a long story short, the whole issue was me having the wrong belief system.

It took some time, but eventually, I accepted that I was actually OK, and a lot of women could do far worse than to be in a relationship with me. I now also understood, that there were actually many thousands of potential partners for me.

As soon as I started believing this, it was as though some flood gates had opened. I kept running into potential partners at every turn, and I was off the singles scene very quickly.

All I did differently was that I had now accepted that there is actually a complete abundance in our universe. An abundance of suitable people. It was my choice, to accept or reject this fact. That made the difference. Now my physical actions could lead me to my true desires.

My external surroundings had not changed much, Physically I was the same (except getting a bit older, and not much wiser), but my life had turned 180 degrees. Because I allowed it to. I let my mind accept that anything is possible, and nothing could stand in the way of a strong enough belief.

But, only severe pain brought about this realization.

You can avoid the pain. Understand the above, you have many choices now. They will let you do things in more positive ways. Realize, that life will end up teaching you either way, let it be a pleasant instead of painful lesson.

In conclusion, imagine it, believe it, and see what happens.

Remember, keep on loving

Udo

Actions Of Love

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By , July 13, 2020 10:12 pm

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Myrna, 38 and a successful physician, sought my help because she often felt inadequate. While she really valued herself as a doctor, she did not value herself in her important relationships with friends and family. In addition, she said she wanted to be in a loving relationship but she took no actions to meet available men.

In the course of our work together, it became apparent that Myrna rarely took loving action in her own behalf with her friends and family. For example,…

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Myrna, 38 and a successful physician, sought my help because she often felt inadequate. While she really valued herself as a doctor, she did not value herself in her important relationships with friends and family. In addition, she said she wanted to be in a loving relationship but she took no actions to meet available men.

In the course of our work together, it became apparent that Myrna rarely took loving action in her own behalf with her friends and family. For example, Jessica, one of Myrna’s friends, would often get angry and blame Myrna when Myrna was not available for dinner with Jessica. Myrna would feel guilty and responsible for Jessica’s feelings and meet her for dinner even when she was exhausted from work. Myrna would feel drained after these dinners and depressed for a few days after, never realizing it was because she had not taken loving care of herself.

Myrna realized that the reason she was afraid to be in a relationship was because she had no idea how to take care of herself around others. She was terrified of completely losing herself in an important relationship. She realized that if she could not speak up for herself with Jessica, how could she ever speak up and take loving action for herself with a man she was in love with? She realized that she would continue to feel lonely, anxious, inadequate and depressed until she learned to take loving action for herself.

Many people suffer daily from anxiety, depression, stress, and anger as well as from feelings of guilt, shame and inadequacy. The major cause of these feelings is a lack of loving action in their own behalf.

Loving actions fall into two categories: Loving actions for yourself and loving actions in relationship to others.

LOVING ACTIONS FOR YOURSELF

Loving actions for yourself are those actions that attend to your own needs. When you take loving action in your own behalf, you are letting yourself know that you matter, you are important, you count. When you fail to take loving action, you give yourself the message that you are not important, which leads to feelings of depression and inadequacy.

Loving actions for yourself might include:

* Eating nutritious foods, avoiding junk food and sugar, eating when hungry and stopping when full.
* Getting enough exercise.
* Keeping your work and home environments clean and organized.
* Getting enough sleep.
* Creating a balance between work and play. Making sure you have time to get your work done, as well as time to do nothing, reflect, learn, play and create.
* Creating a good support system of people who love and care about you.
* Being organized with your time, getting places on time, paying bills on time, and so on.
* Choosing to be compassionate with yourself rather than judgmental toward yourself.
* Creating a balance between time for yourself and time with others.
* Making sure you are physically safe by wearing a seat belt in a car, a helmet on a motorcycle, scooter, or bike, goggles when necessary, and so on.

LOVING ACTIONS IN RELATIONSHIP TO OTHERS

Loving actions in relationship to others might include:

* Being kind and compassionate toward others without compromising your own integrity or ignoring your own needs and feelings.
* Saying no when you mean no and yes when you mean yes, rather than giving yourself up and going along with something you don’t want to do, or automatically resisting what another wants from you.
* Taking care of your own needs instead of trying to change and control others. Accepting your lack of control over others and either accepting them as they are or not being around them.
* Speaking your truth about what is acceptable to you and what is unacceptable and then taking action for yourself based on your truth.
* Taking personal responsibility for your own feelings and needs, instead of being a victim and making others responsible for your feelings and needs.
* Creating a balance between giving and receiving, rather than a one-way street with another person.

As a result of learning to take better care of herself alone and with others, Myrna no longer felt depressed and inadequate. She gradually lost her fears of being in a relationship, and is delighted to be meeting available men.

Breaking Up Relationships – Getting Back Together With An Ex

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By , July 12, 2020 5:38 pm

There are plenty of reasons for breaking up relationships. There are benefits of breaking up and drawbacks as well. One of the things you have to take into account when you break up a relationship is to figure out whether getting back together with an ex is worth it or not. There are some things you should and shouldn’t do if you are considering breaking up.

Some reasons for breaking up relationships is because there is constant arguing going on. There are always reasons people can find to argue, but the core of the matter lies in why you two are arguing in the first place. Is there a trust issue going on? If you cannot trust your partner, then there can be no basis for the relationship. You should be able to trust that your partner will do the right thing in a tempting situation. Perhaps your partner cheated in their past relationship. But if they have never cheated in your relationship and have never given you reason to think that they did, then you should probably continue to trust them. Trust is a virtue that must be earned, and if it is broken it will take time to rebuild that trust again.

Another reason for breaking up is the lack of communication. Sometimes one or both partners completely close off from each other for one reason or another. The usual excuse is the typical “I have a lot going on.” Well, if there is a lot going on, then you should talk about it. There is nothing worse than having something bottled up inside you for a long time. Those feelings will only fester and cause you to worry even more. Partners should talk it out and try to bring a resolution to the problem.

Talking out a problem with someone you trust will surely do your emotional attitude some good because just the fact that you are being heard and someone is listening to you is worth some of the best advice in the world. As you probably already know, sometimes all you need is a shoulder to cry on or a person to hug. This might be one of those times, so take advantage of it. You will know who your true friends are here.

One benefit of breaking up is the fact that you can get some air. Perhaps your partner was smothering you and keeping you from seeing other people due to jealousy. With the break up complete, you can now go out and enjoy yourself. Another benefit of breaking up is to work on yourself some more. If you still need some personal growth, then now is the time to do it. Once you have better confidence in yourself and better self esteem, then there will be greater opportunities for a successful relationship between you and your future partner.

Take these things into account when you are considering breaking up relationships because you just might have to apply some of this advice to your situation.

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